(Closed) Help! My maid of honour has disappeared! What do I do?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
30399 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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futuremrslobanov:  Does she live near you? Can you drop by her place unannounced? Something big must be going on in her life. I would try to find out what that was rather than focussing on your wedding.

You can still married without an Maid/Matron of Honor. Right now, I think it’s more important to be a friend to her.

Post # 3
318 posts
Helper bee


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julies1949:  I agree!! 

Post # 5
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I would totally drop by her house unannounced to see what is up.  Can you call someone that knows her to find out if they have seen her or know whats going on?  

I hate to say it but it sounds like if she is acting like that she may not want to be or not be able to be in your wedding right now.  Its important to stay focused as a bride and realize you can’t control others.  Find out what is going on with this girl then you will have to be willing to let it go and go on with your plans without her if need be.

Post # 6
6232 posts
Bee Keeper

Call a family member to see if something is going on.  If all else fails, call the police who are local to her and ask that they do a well check.  I didn’t know that was a possibility until discussing a friend who had gone AWOL with another friend who did just that.  Turns out she was unemployed, moved back home, lived with her brother and has probably fallen right off the rails.  she doesn’t reach out to us and that’s her decision but at least we know she’s alive.

Post # 7
7555 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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futuremrslobanov:  Oh deaer, sounds like something major has happened. If it were me I would drop by her place.

Post # 8
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Has Maid/Matron of Honor resurfaced?

Post # 9
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

When my Future Brother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law got married their Bridesmaid or Best Man vanished two months before the wedding, and resurfaced just days before! It was A LOT of stress, upset and worry. But he came through. Still though, it was HELL for them!

I don’t mean to sound harsh, but you CAN get married without her.

Post # 11
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Simsbury 1820 House

Any update? I would be seriously worried about my friend! 

Post # 12
64 posts
Worker bee

I agree with the rest. I would definitely drop by or call around to friends and family. I would be worried sick! I hope she is ok!

Post # 13
719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I had a bridesmaid disappear before my first wedding also.  Luckily it was early enough on, and I had someone take her place.  She ended up surfacing about three weeks before the wedding.  I was so relieved she was okay.  I found a random thing for her to do with the wedding, so she could still be a part of it.  Ended up she moved to NY with her boyfriend, to get away from her insane mom, and cut off all ties to friends for a bit to see which ‘friend’ was giving info to her mom.

I hope you find out what is going on with your Maid/Matron of Honor, and that she is okay!

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