(Closed) Help! My MOH (sister) says she will NOT be at my wedding! :(

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Have you called her and asked her to go out to lunch with you? Maybe she would just like some alone time with just the two of you doing special things like you probably used to.

Post # 4
247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011 - The Viceroy

Wow, I am so sorry that you are dealing with this.  It does sound like sound like your sister may be having a hard time with all the attention on your wedding, which is probably only made worse by the fact that her new boyfriend is not your family’s favorite.  If I were in your shoes I’d let her cool off for a while and then reach out to her–but don’t bring up the wedding.  Maybe go out to lunch and just talk about her.  Hopefully after that she’ll feel better about the situation and will be more open to being a part of your wedding.  You still have a few months until the wedding, so hopefully everything will blow over in time.  Good luck!

Post # 5
255 posts
Helper bee

Perhaps explain the situation to your best friend and ask if she’d mind being a co-MOH? That way (hopefully) once things work out with your sister (because I’m sure deep down she still wants to be there for you) they can share duties – but you don’t have to stress about not having someone to fill that important role if the worst happens.

I think the best way to approach things with your sister is just not to broach the wedding topic with her for a wee while, she is obviously really sensitive about her relationship (and therefore all others) and needs your support to help get back on her feet emotionally.

Good luck and thinking of you 🙂

Post # 6
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

**HUGS**  Go ahead and ask you BFF to step up and be your Maid/Matron of Honor.  If anything, like your sister does come back, they can share the title.  Give her a few days to calm down and then call her up for a non wedding related date, take her to the movies, lunch, a mani/ pedi, anything and talk with her and let her know that you really want her to be apart of your life and that you were hoping to enjoy the start of your marriage with your sister by your side.  Be gentle about the situation because she obviously has some issues with her Boyfriend or Best Friend not being accepted and her not getting married first.  Understand that it may take her some time to come around, but don’t be dicouraged:)

Post # 8
1032 posts
Bumble bee

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. Congratulations on your wedding though! I am sure she will come around as the wedding date moves closer, and I would second all the above advice. Good luck and keep us posted on how lunch goes.

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