(Closed) Help! My mom is going way overboard..

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You need to have a sit down heart-to-heart with her, and tell her how you feel. She probably doesn’t relaize that her generosity is actually making you feel bad, rather than good!

Post # 4
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t have any advice for you other than what my mom tells me. I feel they way you do and I’m only at the beginning of this process. however, I am feeling a lot of guilt over what everyone intends to spend. I continue to talk about this with y mother and she tells me “this is what we want. we want you to have all of this because you deserve it. I haven’t been this happy in a long time, i feel like I am havng a baby again”. so it sounds similar to your mom that she really wants this for you and is enjoying doing it all for you, so as hard as it is, try to just be thankful as you have been and enjoy. (easier for me to tell you than to do myself)

Post # 6
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Irishb: I would sit down and talk with her. I think Moms get caught up in the whirlwind of the day and dont understand that there is life after this day. Im sure if you let her know how THANKFUL you are and how WONDERFUL she is, it wont come off as anything but love and concern.

Good Luck


Post # 7
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Well, if she told you it was her last chance to spoil you, maybe somehow relay to her that if she holds back now, she’ll have even more means to spoil future grandchildren or something? That is, of course, if you’re planning on having kids…

She probably feels a bit like she is about to lose you, but there might be things you can do or say to help her realize that is not truly the case. Perhaps have a nice lunch with her where you can talk to her about it. Good luck!

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