(Closed) Help! My Mom’s dress choice is SO wrong!

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 3
7691 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Meowkers: I will definitely post when I get home as I am at work right now. However, you can probably find some pictures on the internet just by googling. Also, tell your mother that since you havent done very much planning the style and color scheme of your wedding could possibly change. Tell her as much as you think she is beautiful in whatever she wears that you would really appreciate her wearing a more toned down color. My mom wore a robins egg blue dress and she stood out but not TOO much and I thought she looked beautiful!

Post # 5
3311 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My Mother-In-Law wore a purple dress, my SIL wore green and brown.  Our colors were blue/white/silver, and yet I don’t think they looked out of place at all.  I was pleased that my Mother-In-Law and SIL had both found outfits that they were happy and comfortable with tbh.  

Here’s a pic of us with our parents:

And with all of both families together:


I know it’s not bright red like you are talking about, but it did stand out a bit because it wasn’t in our color scheme.  I didn’t mind it one bit though.  I thought she looked beautiful and same with my SIL!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
13094 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I really don’t think it would be that bad!  Our wedding was red and white with gold accents (BMs in red dresses).  My mom wore a yellow dress and my Mother-In-Law wore a purple dress and they both looked absolutely beautiful and it didn’t look strange in pictures at all!  (I don’t have pictures with me that I can post as I’m at work).

Post # 7
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

To be completely honest I don’t think it makes a difference.

My parents were never in pictures with the wedding party or with my DHs husband for that matter. We never did a big family shot I don’t know why it just didn’t happen.

My mom wore a purple dress:

My Mother-In-Law wore a cobalt blue dress:

And my Bridesmaid or Best Man were in hot pink like the groom’s tie.

My personal opinion is if they are comfortable and happy that is all that matters!

But if it really matters to you I am sure she will understand.

Post # 8
324 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It is not a big deal..and does not even sound like a clashing color… seems petty

Post # 9
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

Your mother is a grown woman, and she doesn’t need to match the wedding party ๐Ÿ™‚ It’ll be ok ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think the red is really going to clash with the magenta. Tell her it’s not about matching or standing out, but about the clashing. Show her some red next to some magenta to help make your point.

Post # 11
3563 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It really doesn’t matter. I also kind of freaked out before our wedding about the color of the moms’ dresses. But I promise you, it does not matter ONE bit. First of all, we don’t have any pictures with my mom and the bridal party (except my sister, because she was my MOH), so you don’t havev worry about their dresses “clashing”. Not to mention, there is no way that anyone will be able to tell your color scheme from pictures of you and your parents, so don’t worry about her not matching it! As for the reception pics, the focus will be on the people and not on the decorations, so again–Don’t worry!! Let her wear what she wants; better to save your energy for another battle ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My mom and both of my MIL’s wore the same colors as our wedding party.  Here is what it looked like, excuse the picture, our photographer wasn’t that great! 


Post # 13
433 posts
Helper bee

I found this picture which kind of illustrates your point about the eye being drawn to the bright red, but honestly – does this ruin the picture? not for me. I don’t think this is a big problem.

If you are really caught up on this go ahead and try to persuade her to get a different dress (maybe suggest that she doesn’t have to get a  “MOB” dress, a dress from any store will work) or suggest some bold colors that you’d be ok with, but I don’t think this is a battle I’d feel like fighting…

you can always print your pictures in black and white ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 14
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it will be fine, since your colour scheme is strong, she won’t stand out too much. If you had pastels and she was wearing red, then maybe say something, as she might look out of place. My BMs were in pale blue, and my mum wore pale pink, which toned without directly matching. I was just irritated that my Mother-In-Law wore pink, too – she never ever wears pink, and I told her my mum was wearing it, and she went ahead anyway. It looks like I dictated what they were wearing – very iritating (although ultimately minor)

Post # 15
5983 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

My Mom wore a shade of purple and my bridesmaids wore black.  Our “pop” of color was fuschia.  I think she looked great and didn’t “stand out”, even though we never had a photo taken with her in it along with the wedding party.

Post # 16
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My MIL’s dress didn’t go with our wedding colors at all and it didn’t bother me (or anyone else a bit).


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