(Closed) Help! My Mom’s dress choice is SO wrong!

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 17
649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Our colors were cornflower blue and sage green with the bridesmaids wearing the blue. Granted, I didn’t specifically ask the mothers to coordinate their colors with the bridal party and assumed they would use their best judgement to find something that matched.

The result was that of other posters above: we didn’t take enough pictures with both mothers together with the bridal party or individually for it to really matter. My mother wore a bronzed green color dress from David’s Bridal and my Mother-In-Law wore a burgandy outfit. Neither were exactly a match with the colors, but it was just fine. They wore the colors they liked and it was alright – in fact we never took a picture with both mothers in the same shot, now that I think about it!

Post # 18
921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My colors were pink, black and champagne. My bridesmaids dresses were black and the groomsmen wore champagned colored vests/ties.  My mom (to the right of me) and grandma (to her right) both did a good job matching – I guess black is an easy color, but my mom’s dress had a pink/champagne top that went perfectly.  Something blue or another color would have not looked right.


Post # 19
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I don’t think she should have to blend, however a bright red colour is not a great look in my opinion for the MOB.  If it were a dark red, maroon, or light red then perhaps.


Post # 20
7691 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Here is a picture of my mom and bridesmaids


Post # 21
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I gave my Mom free reign over the dress and color she wants to wear.  Whatever makes her feel beautiful is fine with me!  She is very proud of being the “Mother of the Bride” and I have no problems with that.

Post # 22
1882 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it will look fine. Don’t worry!

Post # 23
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I”m going to have to be another one to chime in and say– let her wear what she wants. Are you really scared about her stealing the spotlight? i’m not dictating what any of my family wears, I just want everyone to be comfortable and happy.

Post # 24
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Our colors were spice, brown, and gold. My mom wore a navy blue dress, his mom a teal printed dress, my dad a black tux (the groomsmen wore brown) and my granny had a bright purple dress (she has never worn that color in her life). In the photos, we looked awesome! It all blended together and showed a bunch of happy people. Isn’t that what it’s about?

Personally, I don’t care for photos where everyone is super coordinated. It looks kind of boring. Besides, we are gonna talk about my granny’s bright purple dress and smile about it for years (she looked awesome by the way!)

Post # 25
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Why not let your mom stand out anyways?  She is representing her happiness for your new life. Its a little thing that won’t matter in the end.  There was an episode in Who’s Wedding Is It Anyways where the bride was upset that the Mother-In-Law was wearing a red dress.  They could not get her to change her mind either.  The bride was pretty freaked out too.

Post # 26
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally, I think the old rule of Mom’s dress color coordinating should still stand to an extent. I wouldn’t want her in red if I was having magenta as a wedding color either. It’s not a problem of her standing out, it’s clashing. Obviously she is going to stand out as your MOM, my goodness–she gets a corsage/flower, and seated separately and gets her spotlight–I’m sure that’s not your concern. You’re not a bad person for wanting her not to wear red. I don’t by any means think she should try to match your bridal party, or any of that–but wanting her to coordinate, yes I get that.

Post # 27
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m having a similar problem, i think my mom wants to stand out way too much, she hasn’t been shopping for dresses yet but we looked online and she seems to like dress that are beautiful but way too much

Post # 28
4410 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

Your mother techically is not part of the wedding party, so there is no reason for her to match. Most of the weddings I’ve been to, the MOB and MOG wore dresses that were completely of their own choosing, and usually didn’t even coordinate with each other!

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