Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2015 - The Landmark
My future Mother-In-Law went and got a dress, I’m pretty sure she bought it and has it at her house, without talking to my fiance or myself, which I’m fine with. But last night my fiance and I where talking and he said its mostly white. I’m not even wearing a true white dreaa, it’s ivory, so she’ll wear more white than I am. How do I handle this without sounding like a bridezilla?
This topic was modified 5 years ago by Jazzlynn.
Post # 2
ask Her what it looks like and tell her she can’t wear it
Post # 5
I don’t understand why people would choose and all white dress for a wedding
Post # 6
You should go over there and be really excited with her about it, and look at it. If it’s ok, then there’s nothing to freak out about. If it’s not, I think the best way to handle it is ‘Hey (FMIL name), this is really pretty but it’s white. I know I’m not wearing an exactly white dress but this is kind of close. Would you mind finding something else?” And I would say it in a really nice voice, very calm. Don’t freak out. Don’t cry. Don’t go all ‘bridezilla’ on her. Just talk with her. Most of these people have some good common sense and will probably be ok with it.
Post # 7
You don’t. You shouldn’t tell a grown woman what to wear.. let her look stupid
Post # 8
I know you’re opening yourself up for a lot of “real” and “Honest” bees to come here and tell you how wrong you are for this. BUT YOU AREN’T! I would just go see the dress or have a conversation with her about it and explain your discomfort/concerns. And it’s pretty traditional to go with the “only the bride can wear white or a shade of white” rule for weddings. So I don’t know why she’d think that was really okay. Besides, there’s always the option to return it or exchange it for something else. If she’s an adult, which would make her reasonable, then she probably won’t be offended if you come to her like an adult also. 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 11
Didn’t say you couldn’t be blunt. I answered your question which was “how can I handle this without sounding like a bridezilla?”. My reply was “you can’t”.
Unfortunately, anyway you say you can’t wear that specific dress because it might take some of my attention (even if you preface it with our southern Bless your heart) will still make you sound like a bridezilla.
Post # 12
Oh, and I totally want to see a picture of it btw
Post # 13
Your Fiance said it is mostly white? Sometimes guys aren’t the greatest at articulating fashion. “Mostly white” could mean it has a white pattern on a different color fabric or it has white sequins or white ruffles. Maybe it is a light pink or blue and he thought it looked white. Lets not freak out until we have to.
If you see it and find he was right, I would ask very diplomatically, “How do you feel about traditions regarding the bride being the only one to wear white at the wedding?” Sounds like something Miss Manners would say, pointed but not (IMO) rude.
Post # 14
My Future Mother-In-Law is wearing an ivory dress in the same shade as my dress. I didn’t say anything. I’d rather laugh if off in the future when we see pictures than say something and have her secretly resent me for not letting her wear what she wanted forever haha.
Post # 15
you could aLways share with her the nightmare that some brides have to deal with re Mother-In-Law and even guests wearing white. Act like you assume she’s in on the joke. If she’s not trying to be malicious this lets her return or exchange without any drama.