(Closed) Help, my mother-in-laws dress!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 16
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355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

This wouldn’t be something that bothers me. If I let my bridesmaids choose their dresses and they chose a full length white gown that looked like mine, it would be a problem and I’d say something. But the MOG? She’s not going to be mistaken for the bride.

Anyway, another thing is that I find that my Fiance sometimes isn’t great at describing things. The dress might not be all white, it might be patterned with some white. Go take a look before freaking out.

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I definitely think if you let her down gently, it won’t be “bridezilla-like”. It’s only when you scream and stomp like a toddler. Honestly, it’s perfectly normal to tell people no white. It’s on my wedding website on a FAQS page where I answered common questions. 🙂

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Don’t tell her not to.

Maybe suggest to her that you have thought a lot about it and that those family members not in the bridal party you would like to wear a shade of ____ (pick whatever color you want) that way it coordinates but is not clashing and it will look cohesive in picks. 

I know we did that and just asked all our immediate family to wear a little purple as it would look great in the pics together and they all did but 2. 

Post # 19
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Busy bee

Buy her a wrap. April is chilly.

Talk to your Fiance, it is his mother that people may be judging. See if he thinks it is worth him mentioning to her that people might think she was being rude or trying to disrespect the bride by wearing a mostly white dress.

 

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Oh Everyone knows your not suppose to wear white to a wedding even if is the mother of the groom. You should have your fiance talk to her about it and hopefully she will change her mind. Maybe compromise and tell her she can wear it for the rehersal dinner instead? 

Post # 21
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Helper bee

You should definitely say something if it bothers you. I agree with PPs about being calm. In the end though, if she wears it, sassygrn is right on the money. Everyone will be like, “omg. I can’t believe she wore white. What a %^&$%^!” lol It’s the truth. SHE is the one who will look bad.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee

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Jazzlynn:  I think you should get a look at it before you freak out. It might not be mostly white. It could be black and blue.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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TheLadyA:  Hahaha.

You should have her text you a picture,so you can see it before you have a reaction.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

Dh was trying to describe a dress that his Mom was going to wear for our wedding. He said it was mostly white. It turned out to be blue with white and other blues swirling through it. Yes, there was a lot of white in it but the blues made up for it. It looked like a watercolor painting – it was very pretty and looked good on her. My dress was candlelight – a soft warm ivory color. So it’s all about interpretation.

I would take a look at it before I went all ballistic on her.

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Everyone will know you’re the bride.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I had a similar situation! I was casually asking my Future Mother-In-Law what her dressed looked like while we waiting for our men to try on suits. We were getting accent colours and what not at the time so it felt like a good time to ask what she was wearing, her process, etc. She brushed off my questions and it took me a little too long to realize she simply didn’t want to tell me about her dress! “What I wear doesn’t concern you,” she said. I was shocked. I just out bitched her and said something along the lines of, “I don’t know why you’re being so secretive, it’s not like you’re going to,roll up in a designer gown looking faboulous. You’re probably going to get it on sale somewhere. I was merely asking in case I ended up picking a colour that was the same as yours for the bridesmaids.” This had more bite than it sounds because she knows I think she has no taste when it comes to quality items. That being said, not only did it shut her up, but it relaxed me because its not like she’s going to,outshine me, even if she does wear white! She’s about 75 pounds overweight so let her try, lol.

You can’t control what everyone around you wears so either out bitch her or brush it off. There are way too many things to focus on. 

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Also your taking your fiances word thats its “mostly white” – its probably blue. Men.

 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

What’s the other colour of the mostly white dress?

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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TheLadyA:  LOLOL perfect response! 

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