(Closed) Help! My Puppy is Way More Attached to Me Than My FI

posted 8 years ago in Pets
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Aww, I’m sorry.  But I think this happening is common.  Pets almost always bond more closely with one person in the household.  My brother bought his wife a cat.  Several years later, she bought him a dog.  The cat was supposed to be hers and the dog his, but the animals chose the other way around.  That’s just life.

I’m sorry this is hurting his feelings, but he needs to find some way to deal with it.  Unless you plan on getting rid of the dog…I don’t see any other solution.

Chihuahuas aren’t naturally the best fluffy companions.  They’re usually timid, yappy dogs.  Maybe your fiance is craving a larger dog more suited to his personality?  Shetland sheepdogs have the best personalities and seem to love everyone equally.  Even if they do have a favorite, they always greet a new person who enters the room with their whole body wagging (we call it the butt wag).  😉

If you really don’t want to get another pet, then my advice is for you to stop feeding the dog.  Only let your fiance feed him.  I always fed our cat and he naturally bonded to me.  He would sometimes go so far as to bite my fiance when he walked through the room for no reason!  Once I started letting my fiance feed my cat, the cat was a lot nicer to him and would rub on his legs and sit in his lap and purr.  Good luck!

Post # 33
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

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Post # 34
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Oops! Posting from my phone in one thread and somehow my comment ended up in an entirely different thread that I hadn’t even tried to open! I have no idea how THAT happened! Lol. Sorry!

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

@kkish3:  My daughter had the same problem.Her puppy is a pomeranian,so cute but so clingy.Now her and her man have established a routine.She is a student ,he works. Every morning he will get puppy and bring him to her for cuddles. When he gets home,he will take it for a walk, for their alone time. It didn’t take long to establish a connection..I can see how he feels rejected but it can be fixed xx

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My husband and I have an 100 lb. fur baby who has gotten used to me working from home all day while my husband is away working.  Needless to say, we’ve certainly developed routines together such as going for walks, napping ,etc.  When my husband is home during the day he gets put out that the dog lays next to me while I work instead of by him.  My husband also does not get home until late at night so over time I started letting the dog lay in bed with me so I wasn’t so lonely. 

The problem is that the dog has now become accustomed to going to bed with me every night and when my husband comes home he finds a 100 lb. dog sleeping on his side of the bed. At first it was funny but now I can tell my husband is put out by this. The dog and I also used to wait up for my husband to come home at night and greet him at the door. I was losing a lot of sleep by waiting up so late so eventually did away with this routine so now when my husband comes home the dog and I are already asleep and nobody greets him at the door. He openly told me that he looks forward to seeing us greet him and is bummed when we are in bed when he gets home.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I find our little guy (like a kid) goes through phases. Sometimes it’s all about mom, and other times he always wants to be with dad. It also depends what he’s after. For example, he knows that wrestling/rough play only happens with dad, and cuddles are almost always from mom.

He’s a very smart little guy and he learned who to go to for what. Have the puppy associate something positive with your Fiance, and you should be good! I was also home with our puppy for the first several months of his life, and the quality time does make a difference. Like many others said, walks are a great bonding experience, and you should consider buying a toy the puppy loves that your Fiance uses exclusively.  

Post # 38
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Busy bee

I pestered and pestered and pestered my other half for over a year for a dog! he had never had a pet dog before! I got the dog from our local pound and she loved me……for all of a week……and now she is superglued ever since (over a year) to my SO!

Like literally i do not get a look in if hes in the same room! The feeling is mutual my SO is so in love with the dog! I’m like ” what about me….hello I’m over here….i’m the reason we got a dog….. i picked you from hundreds!?!”

To be fair though I’m busier with than my SO so he does play with the dog more and i think that could be it. If i’m on my own for a whole weekend with the dog, she gets very attached to me.

Why not play with the puppy together, go to park and have a family fun day, we do that and throw a ball around for a half an hour! We do family hugs to where me my SO and doggy all have a hug on the sofa!

Still it is true dogs defo bond with one person more……although what i’ve noticed is if me and my SO are arguing the doggy always sits beside me as if to say ” hey buddy, calm down there” But in generally i’ve just had to accept that our doggy loves her Daddy more!

 

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I have two dogs (one boy and one girl) both are really lovely Cav King Charles Spaniels. The little girl loves me more than my partner. She follows me everywhere. But my partner started playing a little game with her, and she plays along. (I think that she does it to amuse him)

 

Anyway our boy is closer to my partner, likes to sit in his lap and watch him play Xbox and watch TV. But my partner says that when it comes down to it they love me best- but he said that it was ok- because we all love me best- I thought that it was really sweet.

 

But it wasn’t always like this, when I first got the dog, my partner was really jealous of the attention that the dog was receiving. I found that once the second dog came alone, it sorted itself out. Weekends are great!- we take our ‘little children’ to the doggie park, or beach for fun etc. We have a really large doggie park, and just let them off the leach, and follow them around, while we hold hands and chat about our week. Good bonding experience!

 

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

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