Post # 1
I have timed my wedding ceremony and from beginning of my celebrant speaking, to the kiss is a leisurely 5mins. I know this is likely to be about 10 minutes on the day, but that to me is still too short.
OUr theme is vintage international travel if that helps to get the ball rolling. we’re not into lovey-dovey readings, but any readings that might be fun and quirky (eg we may have a short reading from the Princess Bride) and we’re not at all religious.
Just need a few things to flesh it out a little..
Post # 3
We are doing a hand ceremony. We Will pretty much hold hands while the officiant talks about our hands raising a family and whipping away each others tears and being there for each other every day etc. takes up a bit of time!
Post # 4
No such thing as a too short ceremony from a guests point of view!
My ceremony was 7 minutes long (counted on the video). It didn’t seem that short.
If the ceremony currently has everything you want in it why flesh it out? Wouldn’t that just be adding meaningless stuff to a meaningful ceremony?
Post # 5
What about doing like a unity candle or something like that? Maybe a couple readings. You could have a soloist sing a song or have the group sing a song (not necessarily a hymn).
Post # 6
Do you have a favorite slow-dance song? Is there a possibility of a video projector? Do you have pictures of the two of you travelling together? (Life is a journey after all)
If yes to both – put together a slide show of the travels you have done, maybe include places you want to go eventually. It’s pretty easy to use a photo program to turn any color shots into black and white, sepia or colorspot if you want to add that effect. Play that somewhere in the middle, maybe right before the final vows, and use it as a private moment for the two of you (depending on how busy the day is, it might be the first time that day the two of you really get to stop and say “Hi… how’s it going?”) while the audience is entertained by the slide show.
-Manda aka Ms. McGuiver
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL
totally good to have a short ceremony! mine isnt going to be long at all…i think the only thing that might give it some length is the song during the sand ceremony…without the song we would be looking at like 10 min tops lol
Post # 8
We are also doing the hands ceremony, as well as 2 readings, a welcoming, and an address to the couple and address to the audience. I’m hoping mine will be about a half hour. One reading is the traditional Corinthians; the other is The Union by Robert Fulman (sp)…
Don’t forget to add in your processional, that may add 3-8 minutes depending on how many people…
Check out offbeatbride.com for some untraditional readings – here is a link to readings from children’s stories: http://offbeatbride.com/2011/05/wedding-readings-from-childrens-books
Post # 9
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having a short ceremony. I want to try to keep mine as short as possible. Yes, it will be my day, but I know everyone else is not going to want to listen to poem after poem being read. haha.
Post # 10
I’ve been to some fabulous VERY short (totally under 10 minutes) ceremonies, they’re just as special as the longer ones. Actually, a lot more memorable, the long religious ones all sort of blend together (I say this as someone planning a long religious ceremony for myself).
The hand tying thing will add minutes if that’s what you want to do. I went to a wedding where friends of the couple passed and unraveled two very, very long reams (?) of yarn through the seated guests (so half held one ream, half held the other), starting in the back. So by the time the ends reached the altar, everyone was holding on to part of one of the reams. Then the officiant tied the two pieces together around the couples’ hands. So a bit more than the usual hand tying ceremony, it brought everyone in and it took at least two or three minutes to get all the yarn up there.
Post # 11
we want ours short as possible too
We are using the Dr Seuss reading “Oh The Places You’ll Go” because it’s so cute, and non-religious.
Post # 12
Ours was super short, and we had so many compliments on how sweet and short it was! I think your guests will appreciate it. They would much rather mingle with you/other guests than listen to the ceremony.
No matter how long a ceremony, on the day, it’s going to feel like about 2 seconds to you!
Post # 13
Why not do a sand ceremony and have someone sing a song or have a recording of a favorite song played at that time.
Post # 14
Our ceremony was just shy of 6 minutes long from the start of the processional to the start of recessional. No joke, our ceremony video is 5:47 and we got nothing but RAVES from our guests. They loved that it was short and sweet and they got to move on to the cocktail hour without having to sit through a drawn out ceremony with a bunch of unnecessary extras.
I say keep your ceremony as is. There’s no need to alter something that you obviously love just to make it longer. I promise, your guests will love you for not prolonging the most boring part of the day (for them).