(Closed) Help!! My wedding date falls on Easter!

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
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Honey bee

girlygoat:  

If you move it altogether, then you don’t get your April 1st anniversary for the rest of your lives.

If you go back to 2017, what would be your primary concern?

 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

girlygoat:    I think you should keep your 2017 date.  I agree with the PP that said you dont have to take your honeymoon right away.   BUT, if having your honeymoon right after your wedding is important to you then I would move your date.  Getting married on your first date is very sweet but if you get married on another day then you get to celebrate more often 🙂

Post # 18
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Helper bee

girlygoat:  Even with the extra information given, whether you should bump up the date or just move it all together depends completely on your and your FI’s feelings about this and financial details that I don’t think are appropriate to be shared online.

Think about things like: How would you feel and what impact would it have if you bumped up the date?  How would you feel and what impact would it have if you moved the date? How much do you make/how much can you save monthly? What kind of bills are these and how much longer would it take to pay them off if you did bump up your wedding? Would that be financially irresponsible? How much does it mean to you to have your wedding date be your dating anniversary? How much would/could you sacrifice for that? Could you scrimp and save and put off your honeymoon until later to cut costs?

Good luck!

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Hmmmm…I would say to do it in 2017 and maybe file your taxes really early (like January) to get the extra funds? If you guys get a return, that is. Just try to get really good deals on the things you will need, like on Black Friday next year. You can save money in your budget on some things and still have the wedding of your dreams! Try getting a good deal on the dress and your wedding bands, at least.

I say keep your date because you really love it and since you will be celebrating whichever date you choose each year, I’m sure you would regret changing to a date with less meaning. Good luck!

ETA: try taking advantage of things like sign on bonuses for travel credit cards to save money on your honeymoon and use the card to keep track of your expenses. I think that if you are very budget conscious and look for deals you should have no problem making the financial commitment in 2017 (based on your update).  

Post # 20
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Helper bee

NoItsBecky:  No offense, but shouldn’t the goal be to get as close to 0 as possible on your tax refund? If you’re getting a big refund, shouldn’t you change your witholding? My understanding is that unless there are tax credits involved, it means that you’ve paid too much to the government and they are returning money that you loaned them and are not getting any interest on.

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Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I would either move it up a year or change the date. Obviously April 1 has significance to you, and if the date worked for me for some other reason, I wouldn’t let it stop me, but I suspect you guys are going to be getting some April Fools style jokes. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

serotonin:  It depends on a lot of things, I get a decent return simply because I can’t work a lot (school) and I pay out of pocket for school, which I do claim. It also depends on which state you live in based on state taxes. And I typically use my refund money to pay for summer classes since I don’t get any financial aid. I don’t know OP or her financial situation and her wedding is right around tax season so it was just something that came to mind.

ETA: Last year my parents couldn’t claim me and the $1000 break they would usually get went to me instead. Our tax code is thousands of pages long so I won’t even pretend to know how it all works. 

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Well, I am biased because I don’t see the point of super loing engagements, so I would get married on April 1, 2017 (that’s still almost 1.5 years away!). 

But only you can answer this question. What’s more important to you: getting married sooner, or having all the extravagances you envision at your wedding? Sticking to your date of April 1 no matter what, or having it on the date that is most convenient for you? And so on.

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

I guess I’m not sentimental or something because I don’t see why the date is a big deal. I don’t even remember the date of our first date. It’s just not important to me. My wedding date IS important. That’s a much bigger deal to me. So I’d just pick a different date.

Post # 25
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Sugar Beekeeper

I’d be a lot more sentimental about the idea of being married sooner, and within a reasonable budget, than being a slave to some number on the calendar. Your wedding date becomes your anniversary and becomes meaningful in and of itself. Then you’ll have two special occasions to celebrate.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I would move your date altogether. You can still sort of celebrate your dating anniversary. My husband and I don’t gift each other or anything like that, but it’s still a good excuse to eat out and remind each other how/when it all started. 🙂

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I am Catholic and I got engaged on Good Friday (wasn’t my planning, but I liked it!). I would think a wedding on Good Friday would be in poor taste but not Easter Sunday. If you only plan on having 15 guests, why don’t you ask them? 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I would also just move the date altogether. Our dating anniversary is in October and I purposefully chose a different time of year (June) so we would have more things to celebrate and all through the year.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

If you move your date, your wedding date will become special. I quite fancied getting married on the day we started dating but for that to land on a Friday or Saturday (our preferred days) it was 2018/2019 – from a 2014 proposal! We took the date (27th) and worked backwards until we hit a 27th on a Saturday. My friend did the same thing except that she went forwards with her months. My aunt also wanted to get married Easter but obviously couldn’t, she moved the date to the weekend before. So there’s plenty of ways to pick a new date. If you’re set on that date, I suggest you work out your budget and priorities. Work out a savings plan and work out what is important and what can be dropped.

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