(Closed) HELP!!! My wedding officiant cancelled on me and my wedding is THIS SUNDAY!!!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
11259 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@tani139:  did you not have a contract and deposit made?  can you email him or call him to let him know that he is still needed?

Post # 4
1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@tani139:  I dont understand why you need to keep in contact with him? Maybe the week before you’re supposed to discuss a timeline. Do you not have a contract?

Post # 5
4434 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@tani139:  Thats BS, you HAD called him.  If he’s pulled this before try calling him again, CONTINUALLY until you get to talk to HIM to straighten this out.


If that fails, just have a family member go through the ceremony you planned on doing with your officiant and make it official at a court house later.


Does your contract state that in the event he is unavailable at last minute he will find a replacement?  I would ask for those people’s information from him.

Post # 6
8146 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

i know that this is crazy, but could a friend get ordained online and perform the ceremony??

Post # 7
1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@tani139:  As others have asked, do you have a contract with this man? I am confused as to why you needed to touch base with him regularly to ensure he holds the date. If you had an agreement, then you should be good to go. 

All else fails, have your family member marry you. It might turn out better than you expected! I mean, he will know you two and your relationship better than this officiant, and be able to really add some heartwarming and sentimantal words to the day. We’re having a dear friend marry us, and we couldn’t be happier.

Post # 8
738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@tani139:  does anyone in your family belong to a local church or other house of worship? You may be able to get a pastor to come out if they have a relationship with someone in your family or your FIs family. Worth asking around.

Post # 9
11161 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@tani139:  This is very strange. After we “confirmed” our officiant we didn’t talk for months. That goes for many of my vendors. I find it crazy that a professional would cancel the week of with talking to you first. Just because he has removed you from his calendar have you in fact talked with him? He may still be available.

Do you have wedding insurance? I do believe this may be covered especially with the pricing difference.

Post # 10
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It’s not too late.  There are plenty of officiants in NYC who will do weddings last-minute, though I doubt you’ll find one that cheap.  Look on The Knot.  They have a list.  I have one in NYC, and he mentioned that he often does weddings with very short notice – but he’s charging us $600.

Post # 11
8679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@tani139:  try Mitch Maged aka Mitch the minister. He is in north NJ and only $100 more. 

Post # 13
12242 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@tani139:  I’m glad you found someone! Our Pastor just had a small bleed near his brain (on Saturday), and we had to find a new pastor for our wedding on THIS Saturday!

Post # 14
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If push comes to shove, have someone (relative, friend, etc…) “marry” you, but not officially, and then go to City Hall sometime the next week and then get “officially” married by the justice of the peace. I believe many celebrities do this.

Another option is to call any of the judges up where you live.  Judges actually come out to marry people as well, and they charge around $300 or so.

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