(Closed) HELP, need advice!!!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Maybe instead of making her a bridesmaid, make her a personal attendant.  That way she feels included, but you don’t have to compromise your bridesmaid picks.  That’s just an idea! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Ask her to be a reader? I don’t think that if she asked to be a bridesmaid there is anything you can do to avoid hurting her feelings if you don’t ask her, but on the other hand, it’s pretty presumptuous to ask to be someone’s bridesmaid. Tough spot to be in, for sure. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 6
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

She asked to be a bridesmaid? That seems strange. Man I am getting tired of people’s entitlement to being a bridesmaid just because they are friends with the bride. This is a day that will be part of your life forever, and the people who are in your wedding should be too.

8 is too many personally….think about organizing bach party, showers, getting dress fittings, paying for hair/mani/pedi and gifts! I have 6 close friends who definately are “bridesmaid” material but I only chose 3 because they have been in my life the longest. Don’t feel obligated to include people just because they are your friends. If they are really your friends they will be supporting you along the way anyways!

Post # 7
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

My FI’s brother is getting married 6 months before us and I’ve known my Future Sister-In-Law since college yet she didn’t ask me to be her bridesmaid and I didn’t either.  I think there is a mutual understanding between the both of us – since we are both planning our own weddings- that it’s okay not to be in each other’s wedding party.  I can’t speak for my Future Sister-In-Law, but I certaintly don’t mind that she didn’t ask me, even though my Fiance is the best man in her wedding.  I feel that its my role as her Future Sister-In-Law to just be supportive and help them out whenever I can.  The way I look it is – I’ll still be at the wedding – the most important part!  So, if it bothers you a lot – maybe you can sit down talk to her and explain yourself.  If she’s ready to be part of your family – I’m sure she will totally understand!!!


Good Luck ๐Ÿ™‚

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