- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
So I am getting married in 2014 ( So quite awhile away ) But the thing is I have already chosen and asked 4 girls to be my bridemaids, they all said yes. The thing is that one of my bridemaids is the groom’s cuz, We were flatting with her boyfriend and then he kicked us out and we cleaned everything SPOTLESS (im a cleanfreak) when we moved but aparntly it wasnt to his level of cleanless (He is a pig. Doesnt do ANYTHING around the house, no dishs, no vacuming, he doesnt even make his own bed or anything like that.) He is just being really picking because he now relises he cannot afford the flat without us when thats his problem because he kicked us out. and anyway now he wants us to go back and have another big clean up, (which is fine, as I dont want things to be ruined between me and my bridemaid) So i said i would go over on a specific day and now he is telling me to F*^K off and other rude stuff because that day doesnt suit him, and he wants us to go over on the weekend which we cant because me and my partner are working and then going away, and now because we cant go over he said he is going to take us to court.. Now getting back to the wedding, the bridemaid (his GF) is on his side and wont even talk to me at all, and before this all happened i was always asking to come window shopping with the other bridemaids just to get ideas for the dresses she always said no only because she was going to see her boyfriend (which is fine, but she LIVES with him, so its not like she never gets to see him) so she was never even really comitted to being my bridemaid, now me and the groom really really dont want her to be in the wedding party, and i have talked to the other bridemaids and they all said just give her time the wedding isnt for ages away, which i agree with but im just not confinced, the only thing stoping me saying i dont want u in the wedding party anymore is because she is family to the groom, but she wont even talk to me anymore. she has even deleted me from facebook!
I need some advice PLEASE! I have no clue as to what to do.