Post # 1
DS has a great GRE, not so great GPA due to ADD. He only managed to apply to 2 grad schools. It appears that professors that agreed to write letters of recommendation have not followed through, so it doesn’t look like he will even be accepted to either program. He hasn’t heard back from either university. I am (and I think he is guessing/realizing) that his application status is incomplete. He already graduated a year ago, and has been unsuccessful in finding suitable work. Should he have been more proactive-writing professors reminders on a regular basis regarding letters of recommendation? Should he re-connect with them ask for letters now and re-apply for next year? Also, what can he do now-to make himself a better applicant for next year? We (family members) have suggested even taking a non-paying internship if necessary. 🙁
Post # 3
Honestly, if he is old enough to go to grad school, he’s old enough to manage this on his own. This is a battle he needs to fight himself. I can’t imagine a grown man would want his mother posting about his grad school applications on a wedding forum.
Post # 4
I know this is probably not what you want to hear, but frankly, graduate school is HARD. If your son is not motivated enough to send in the applications and follow through on the details, I doubt that graduate school is the place for him right now.
As for making himself a better applicant for next year, that depends entirely on his discpline. What type of graduate school program does your son want to get into? And is this what HE really wants, or is he just trying anything at this point?
Post # 5
@hyperJulie: This. Definitely this.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I’m sorry, professors don’t just forget to write letters of recommendation. I’m in the last few months of my PhD and will be a professor before I blink. I spend my every waking moment around professors, and as an instructor at the University, I also write letters. This is an incredibly important responsibility and part of our jobs. We can’t be negligent about it. There’s something else going on if TWO professors supposedly forgot to write letters. Your son should not need to hag them, though a (ONE) polite reminder about 2 or 3 weeks out from the due date is always a good idea. I also agree with PPs that if he isn’t motivated enough to get an application together and to follow up appropriately on that applicaiton, then he probably isn’t self-disciplined enough for grad school. Think of the self-motivation needed to sit down for 4 or 5 hours a day for months to write an MA thesis or for years to write a dissertation. GRE scores are for most fields pro forma, only an opportunity to get denied, not a reason you get accepted. Grades, recommendations, writing samples… those are the things that matter because they are predictors of future success. If he wants to position himself better for grad school, he should probably do some post-bac work to improve on the picture his grades are giving.
April 15 is the deadline in America for Fall-start grad programs to notify applicants and for applicants to accept or deny offers, so there are a few days left.
Post # 8
I know of one or two professors who’ve forgotten the deadlines for recommendation letters, and had to send them in late after being reminded — and I’ve had students ask me for receommendations but be so vague about them or where to send them that only through chasing the student down was I able to the letters out in time. I once had a student ask for a recommendation but never provide me with the information about where to send it, so I couldn’t. I also never heard from that one again, so I have no idea what happened.
Both professors forgetting seems very odd.
And I’ve never seen a parent that involved in the process. Are you sure your son is really on board about going to grad school?