(Closed) Help, need advice on picking wedding date, kinda long sorry

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Pick a Saturday.. avoid the drama and let yourself shine on your Wedding month.

Post # 4
4520 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

X can’t claim the whole month before and after her wedding. That’s childish. It sounds like it’s best for your guests if you choose the holiday weekend. It’s not like you’re trying to steal X’s thunder. Still, be prepared for a little drama if you do choose the date 2 weeks before her wedding…

Post # 5
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

X is not being classy AT ALL. We had 3 – 3!! couples all from our group of friends get married within 6 weeks last fall. And let me tell you, it was SO MUCH FUN. We all got to be together so much in such a short period of time, everyone had fun, we got closer, it was just great. And, the first wedding that occured was the last couple to get engaged – just like you guys. X should be happy for you, period. Getting married means you get to reserve that weekend – and that weekend ONLY. Not a month, that is crazy. I think you should talk to FH about it more. And have him talk to his best man. Leave X out of the convo for now. Do what makes FH comfortable, though, if it is totally opposed, then don’t push the day. But I do hope you go with it!!

Post # 6
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I got married on a Sunday with no holiday on Monday. It wasn’t to save money or for religous reasons, so I don’t see the problem. We had a whole weekend to celebrate, not just one day.

Post # 7
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Avoid the drama! You dont want to deal with that, this is a happy time!

Post # 8
2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

X sounds like a brat. Have your wedding whenever you damn well please, and don’t let other people bully you. 🙂

Post # 9
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It sounds like she’s being really immature about the situation, but if it were me, I wouldn’t go with that holiday weekend. I know if one of my friends had gotten engaged after me, and chose a date two weeks before my wedding, I would have been kind of upset. I can see even two weeks after, but two weeks before might cause you more drama than it’s worth. I agree with those people who say she doesn’t get an entire month (because she doesn’t!), but she will likely view it as you trying to edge in on her wedding.

Post # 11
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

X sounds exactly like my FI’s cousin. She claimed 4 months in 2011 and then narrowed it down to 2 months on the condition that we got married after her… umm ok WHATEVER.


I would just try to avoid the drama really. She made it clear when her wedding was going to be and if it’s such a freakin big deal to her, then I would consider keeping yours a distance from hers. No, it’s not ideal and I’m not usually one to “give in” but in the interest of keeping some peace…

She sounds like a bridezilla in the making! I would just let your FH and his guy friend talk to each other about it.

There are other ways to save $$. Having it on a holiday weekend generally means an increase in travel costs for people.

Post # 12
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

There is going to be so much other drama surrounding your wedding (guest lists,$$,family,etc) that I would just avoid it if possible. 

I do agree that she’s being a bit bratty – but I think we can all somewhat relate.

-Good Luck and congrats!

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