- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014 - Latitude 41
Bees! I need your help. I’m not sure if I’m being immature or sensitive about this but it’s really bothering me.
I have this friend who always I’ve always considered one of my besties. We’ve known each other for 14 years. When I had my son she was campaigning hard for the position of “Godmother” and she won it out. Though she was late for both his baptism and first communion. Forgiven.
Then when I got engaged last december she was campaigning for Maid/Matron of Honor. I gave this position to another friend who has been like my sister since I was 9.
So here is the issue. I feel like lately (aka since I got engaged) that I am not any sort of priority in her life. The only time we see each other is for wedding stuff that she has to be there at. She says we need to hang out but I never hear from her. Not even a text to say hi, how are you. I’ll text her and try to make plans and she’ll say she’ll let me know but never does.
She was suppose to let me know about last weekend but never got back to me now this weekend I see her posting pics of her and two other girlfriends at her house last night with hastags #goodfriends. I live only a few miles from her house. Why didn’t I get an invite? Our children get along fantastic together and even my son has been asking why we never see them anymore. Additionally, we had talked about going to this big fair together this year like we did a couple years back but then I see pics posted of her going without me. Again, I wasn’t a consideration.
So I feel like she always wants to be #1 and get the title of Maid/Matron of Honor and Godmother in my life but I’m never a thought in hers.
Am I being too sensitive or is this an issue? I mean she’s a bridesmaid! I don’t want to be angry and hurt like I am right now during my wedding regretting having her standing up there with me. Additionally, what do I do? I want to talk to her but she isn’t the most open person to confrontation when she’s being the one confronted. Ugh. This is no fun. Help!!