(Closed) Help! Need checklist for bridesmaid duties at shower

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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3265 posts
Sugar bee

@Stina11287:  Show up?

Honestly, that is really all the need to do, and even then it’s only if their schedule allows.

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

@Stina11287:  Only if they are hosting the event, in which case they will set it up amongst themselves, who needs to do what.

You shouldn’t be involved in any aspect of your shower.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Stina11287:  just a hint, courtesy of Pintetest, to make life easier… Buy labels like you would use on a kids school supplies. The bright colored rectangular ones. Write each guests name on one. Rather than keep a list of gifts, stick the label with the giver’s name on the gift itself. It’ll be a time saver, and also you don’t have to worry about keeping track of the list.

Post # 8
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1571 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Why wouldn’t you open your own cards?

Post # 9
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am sure that the bridesmaids and Maid/Matron of Honor can handle the planning. No need for you to make a list 🙂

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Stina11287:  

I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s their responsibility to get it all taken care of.  You shouldn’t even be prsent at the meeting discussing what needs to be done.  There are a billon things they are worried about and have to stress about.  They are all big girls, and this needs to be a gift that they give to you. The planning, timing, and entire thing should be out of your hands. All you do is show up and say thank you.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Here was my list:

(1) Show up
(2) Have fun
(3) One person help with writing down the gifts and who gave them
(4) Assist the host as necessary, if needed.  

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Stina11287:  

As one list making A type personality who wants everyone to hold hands and get along to another, let it go. You don’t need to help them. Accept and ask for all the help you need. They can handle it. And if they can’t get over their issues in order to plan something speical for someone they love…that’s just sad. My sister and my Maid/Matron of Honor didin’t and still don’t get along either.

Point is, they are all big girls. They need to accomplish the task. I’m sure they have at least attended a bridal shower and have some sembelance of what needs to occur, or they can ask a mom or someone who has recently been married. There is also the internet with wonderful resources.

I only wish I had let little things that I didn’t need to be stressing about go. It would have allowed me to enjoy the process of being a bride more. And the family/friends not getting along does stink, but for you they need to let it go for the hours needed. They can dislike each other and complain to anyone other than you after the necessary events.

And I would tell my sister and MOHI don’t want to hear it when she says anything negative about the other. This is supposed to be a happy time for you. Everything that you are worry about that you don’t need to is going to take away a little from that happiness. Trust me on this one.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mrspriddy: Agreed. I’m super type A/hands on, but I am staying out of my showers and bachelorette parties. I gave a few pointers (stuff that I did NOT want, and my Maid/Matron of Honor asked my opinion on several things for my bachelorette party), but I just want to know dates. Since THEY are planning this, THEY should be handling details like this.

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