Post # 1
Hi Bees! So I have no idea what to get my BM’s for gifts! It’s hard because all three of them are completely different–different in body type, different in style, different in personality, etc…
Is it considered “part of the wedding” to pay for their hair/make-up/nails? Or is that something they pay for themselves? I thought of taking them for mani/pedi’s (I can’t afford hair, make-up AND nails) but one friend mentioned that an actual “gift” for them to remember the wedding by might be better and/or preferred.
So….then I thought of taking them to Charming Charlies the day before the wedding and letting them pick out jewelry for the wedding as their gift…?
I COULD just get them jewelry, but like I said, they are all different so that’d be pretty difficult. And then I thought of gift certificates? But is that too tacky/impersonal? But it’s really not more impersonal than taking them to pick out their jewelry…
Gaaah, So lost….
Post # 3
I feel like a gift should be something you picked out with thought and something that reflects the style/taste of the recipient. I wouldn’t suggest letting them pick out a gift or giving them a gift certificate. That is impersonal in my opinion. They may all be different, but you don’t have to give them all the same thing. You should know your girls well enough to have an idea of what they might like.
Post # 4
Actually no, I have 3 BM’s that are FSIL’s, and I have no clue what their tastes or styles are. Sometimes u have to guess.
ANyway, paying for everything is NOT mandatory. If u want to give them something, how about a massage and a mani? Frankly I was gonna get a necklace for my girls, but I have no idea about some things with them, so I am thinking a massge, brazillian flipflops, and a giftcard to Bath and Body works. I was gonna buy products from Bath and Body Works for the girls, but each one is sooo different. Plus I have been given products from that place twice and I didnt like either scent! So with the card, they can each go to the store and pcik what she would like.
Post # 5
I picked out completely different gifts for my 3 bridesmaids but kept it within the same price range. All my girls have completely different styles and I wanted to respect that. I love choosing gifts for other people but don’t stress about it. Do your best to pick out something for their taste because yes, it is very impersonal to ask them to pick something out for themselves. Mani/pedis are also not a gift, imo, just a generous add-on if desired.
Post # 6
My BMs asked for money toward their makeup/hair rather than a gift. I know some bees may jump on me for that but I asked them all and that is what they wanted. (I did not require them to get makeup or hair either). I also am getting them a pashmina, black flip flops, vera bradley luggage tags, and a handmade picture frame (my friend makes them on etsy, they no where on it say the word “bridesmaid”). They are all wearing their own jewelry (pearls) for the wedding.
Post # 7
I just feel totally inadequate when it comes to picking out gifts. Even with Fiance, we ask each other what the other wants and just get it. I just feel like I want to get the person what they would actually WANT and use, rather than guess and be wrong. :0/