Post # 1
Ok girls, I am in dire need of opinions. New to this site and loving it btw!
So here’s the deal. I am not officially engaged yet but am thinking about buying a dress. My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years, we met at Biola University and have close friends since before we dated, and have known that we want to get married since before our one year dating anniversary. We’ve actually had a timeline for getting married since last summer and I am getting so excited, as we are getting so close! The boy told me Monday evening that he ordered the ring! He was so excited about it that he couldn’t keep from telling me, it was adorable. He usually keeps me in the loop on things, so I don’t mind at all that he told me. So here’s where the problem is, I have no idea when he is going to propose and I kinda have my heart set on a certain dress and am worried that if I wait to order it until after he proposes I might not be able to get the dress in time for our early spring (March/April) wedding. Like many of you ladies, I am completely IN LOVE with the Maggie Sottero- Divina. I called a local salon yesterday to get an opinion about this and was told that I would probably be ok if I order it in the next month but should do it as soon as possible and that I also have to be careful about timing with the designers because the factories close for a few weeks in the month of February. Also, I’m petite so I don’t know if I’d need additional alterations and how long that would take! I’m sure my boy wouldn’t mind if I order, or at least tried on the dress, but I wonder if I did that I’d ruin the experience of getting the dress since we are not officially engaged and I wouldn’t be able to talk to his mom, who I adore, about trying on dresses or my mother or grandma because I’d feel weird about telling them I’m getting a dress before we’re actually engaged, if that makes sense. I have a friend who bought her dress without her mom but didnt want to hurt her feelings so the next time she went in to the salon she faked it bieng the first time with the dress and I guess I could do that. I’m not sure, my mind is kind of a jumble of emotions in regard to this situation right now and I am in somewhat of a panic. I’ve already envisioned what id like the wedding to be like and where because he ave me the go to start planning a little. What do you ladies think? Your opinions and advice would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
Hmmm. I think you should wait so that you can bring your mom. It’s a once in a lifetime experience and I would want to do it right if I were you. You could go and then fake it of course, but my advice is to wait.
However, congratulations on the upcoming engagement – so exciting!
Post # 4
Ask to see if you can put it on lay-a-way or can have it held–that way you can bring your girls and your mother to see you try it on (you won’t want to forego this experience). However, if you truly feel this is the dress and you won’t change your mind in a couple/few months then i’d say buy it–but BE certain–don’t let the excitement of buying a dress blind you because there are SO many dresses out there.
With that being said–congrats and I wish you the best of luck! 🙂
Also, Maggie dresses are gorgeous but expensive–check to see if you can find the dress elsewhere too 🙂
Post # 5
I think you should wait until you’re actually, officially engaged to do anything wedding-related, ESPECIALLY looking at or buying a dress.
Post # 6
I have always been a believe that the right things in life will find you when the time is right. I think right now this mightbe your right dress, but you never know what life is going to bring you. If you get married in April you have 8 months to get a dress still, and without being engaged right now you don’t even have a date set. I would be hesitant to purchase a dress without a set date, and without your mom seeing it. 6 month engagements are very common and girls don’t seem to have trouble finding their dream dresses, especially when you allready know which one it is, they should be able to order your size and alter it no problem within that time, give it a few more months at least
Post # 7
Ok thanks ladies, I’ll wait.
Post # 8
Slow your roll girl! You have plenty of time to enjoy getting engaged and planning a wedding!
We got married on Memorial Day weekend this year and haven’t even reached our one-year engagiversary. 🙂 We were engaged on Sept 15, I ordered my dress mid-November, and it showed up on Easter weekend. Mine was a Maggie also, so you do need tons of lead time, but if it’s not meant to be that dress it just isn’t. If that’s a popular dress I bet you can find a sample for a good deal, too!
Post # 9
You need to slow down honey. I know it’s all exciting but you aren’t going to enjoy being engaged if you don’t. With that said, I am a Divina bride, and yes it’s a beautiful dress but you need to wait. I went shopping with my mom & dad, my future mother in law, & my maid of honor. It’s so fun trying on dresses & getting opinions. We went out for brunch afterwards. It was a very special day. You don’t want to rob yourself of that. Also, you said you’re petite? So you WILL need alterations. I’m 5’4″ and wearing 3-4 inch heels and I will STILL need length taken off of it. So yes, you’ll need alterations.
You said you’re planning a spring wedding and you aren’t engaged yet? I think you’re going to have a difficult time planning a wedding on that short of a time frame – finding a venue, photographer, etc that aren’t already booked! I booked my venue & photographer a year in advance. I know it can be done, but it’s difficult to find exactly what you want, especially if you’re on a budget. Do you even know what your budget is yet for a wedding? This is all stuff that needs to be thought of after you get engaged. I do think you’ll run out of time to get the Divina though. I’m planning a June wedding. I bought mine about 3 weeks ago and they told me it would be in sometime in Janurary. Then alterations take a while, so by the time you get engaged it may be too late. Like the other ladies said, you’ll find a perfect dress that may or may not be the Divina.
Bottom line, you need to get engaged first.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
My cousin and her boyfriend had bought the ring … they just attended my wedding 2 weeks ago, and I just found out last night she moved out and they’re split up.
So: please wait until the ring is on your finger!!!!
Post # 11
Slow down & wait 🙂 don’t jinx yourself!