Post # 1
So I posted awhile ago that Darling Husband got lucky and are renting a 2BR apartment on the first floor of a 2 family house.
the 2nd floor tenant is not only a tenant, but a friend of my friend’s husband.
Problem # 1 which can be fixed, its just frustrating its taking so long. My friends left behind their couches bc tenant/friend upstairs was taking them. They were supposed to have been upstairs already. We will be moving our furniture in little by little, but in the meantime, Darling Husband is painting and needs to get that done this week bc I am pregnant and he wants the room to air out before I am livjng there fully. We went on vacation and asked that the couches be out by the 11th. That gave the guy 2 weeks to get them out. Darling Husband even offered to help before we left for vacay. Today, the couches are still there.
Problem # 2 – he has dog, and so do I. My dog is not friendly. He leaves his upstairs door open so the dog has free range to go up and down the stairs without a leash, so if God forbid I am walking in the house with my dog, there is nothing to hold back the other dog. There is a second door at the bottom of the stairs that we can close but the few times I was in and out and closed that door everytime to keep the dog upstairs, he (tenant opens it again)
Problem #3 – this is my major problem. The dog does not stop barking. I dont know what the dog is barking at but it is concerning. My dog is not a barker. The only time she barks is if the doorbell rings. Tenants dog just barks to hear himself bark. I mean how do you tell someone to shut their dog up? I am also concerned about when baby comes.
When my friend lived there she let the tenant get away with alot bc that was her husbands friend but i know it bothered her bc everytime she heard the dog bark she would roll her eyes and say ‘I hate that dog’.
So its too late to back out of this but Darling Husband is concerned that we made a mistake.
Post # 2
Daizy914: Hey! I’m a long time apartment dweller. I think the couch thing will eventually be resolved, although it’s obnoxious that it’s taking so long (can they not lift it?).
So, the open door issue with the dog. I’d just tell them that your dog is kind of aggressive and has been known to bite other dogs and that you’d hate for anything to happen just because they leave the door open. Hah, it’s dishonest, but reasonable people know to keep their doors closed. So I think this is the only thing that will work.
Your other option is telling the landlord, but it sounds like you’re the only two tennants so they will know. How close of a friend is this person? Are you ok with stirring the pot? If so I’m SURE the landlord is not ok with a dog having free reign over the place.
The dog barking issue is tough. Again I think you’ll have to say something to the landlord. Basically your move is:
1. Move out.
2. Get ok with everything that is happening.
3. Tell the landlord everything and risk the relationship.
Post # 3
swonderful: well the tenant upstairs is just very lazy however i think he just doesnt have anyone to help him even though Darling Husband has offered it. And offered it again tonight, not directly as tenant was not home.
I am very good friends with the landlord, we met through a previous job i had and we remained close, hang out, go to eachothers house for dinner, etc.
The couch issue will get resolved, its just frustrating its taking so long. Like Darling Husband said, you have to help me to help you. It makes sense.
the barking, i was looking online and researching sound machines. My therapist had one in his office to ensure that the person in the waiting room couldnt hear the conversation/therapy session. Its money invested but I can tell this guy is not going to do a damn thing about the dog barking.
the door situation – i told my friend and her husband to please explain that we have a dog who is not friendly and to please keep the downstairs door closed. And when i went to their house to get the keys we met the tenant and i brought it up again about my dog not being friendly and he said “yea yea ok” but he doesnt seem like the brightest crayon in the box. Im anxious to see how this will all play out. I hope this doesnt damage my friendship
Post # 4
Daizy914: Bleh, it’s definitely a sucky situation. I hope you get it resolved soon, I know you mentioned having a child soon. How long is your lease for? Maybe if you know, “I only have to deal with this for X months” it will be easier? Seems like moving might be the best option.
Post # 5
swonderful: we dont plan on being there for more than 2-3 years. We want to save money for a house. So we are just doing 1 year at a time. I dont want to commit to something for more than a year in case something should happen and we have to move.
I want to try and think positive bc there are so many good things about this apartment, its just frustrstig right now :/