- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
My husband and I got married a couple months after we got engaged because he is in the military and I was very sick and needed the insurance. We love each other and only moved up the wedding date as a result of me getting sick. We went to the court house during his lunch break and did the marriage. It was only he and I, no family, no friends. Just some hired witnesses and a judge, then back to work he had to go.
The engagement was just as bland and a fault of both of ours. We were so excited that we both picked out our rings together and made the engagement official that day. No romantic dinner, no down on one knee.
I am lacking a lot of the romance in our engagement/marriage and am feeling very down about it. The plan was to do the quick marriage and then to do a ceremony at a later date. He and I both suffer from extreme anxiety so we decided to do a small, immediate family only, wedding on an island somewhere.
The Army has told us that he only gets to take a couple weeks leave in the beginning of October and it is the last time he can take leave before he leaves to go to Afghanistan in December/January. The trouble with this is that he is from South Carolina, and I am from Kansas. I know he doesn’t want to spend his last weeks of freedom doing the wedding planning and all that, not to mention it is still hurricane season in October.
How in the world can I plan this wedding where there is no guarantee of a wedding (hurricane) and then plan a reception? I thought about doing the reception only during this time of leave he has since we are already “technically” married. Then doing the wedding when he gets back in over a year. It seems awkward doing this though, a reception before the wedding. I don’t want to be selfish and take up his vacation time with his family by doing all the wedding plans then. He will have no other time to see his family before he gets deployed. But I am scared, what if we never get the chance and the worst happens while he is over there?
Once again, we both have anxiety and don’t want a big wedding. There isn’t even any time for a honeymoon.
I need help!!!! Pleeease. I am so lost and have little time to get my head straight.