(Closed) Help! Need roles for children in ceremony

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t think having a child by the guestbook or being given the task to hand our programs is “stupid.” If you have these items at your wedding, someone has to be given the job to man them. Would your family call it a stupid job if these kids weren’t involved?

Anyway, adding children to your wedding party just to silence people isn’t going to silence them. The nagging will never end. If you don’t want them in the actual wedding party that stands up with you, then give them the program and guestbook tasks.

Your family can’t have their cake and eat it, too. If they want them to do something in your wedding, they should be satisfied with whatever job the children are given.

Heck, do these kids even want to be a part of it? Their desire (or lack thereof) should be put first.

It’s your wedding, place people where you see fit.


Post # 4
661 posts
Busy bee

I’m in the same position. I am having my closest adult friends/family as my BM’s – As BIG COUSIN, I have asked my two younger female cousins and two younger male cousins to write a short comedic/love poem about me and Fiance. They are little comics. So during the speaches, they will get up and read the short poem they wrote together 🙂 – They are very excited and happy to do it…lol

Post # 5
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Make the 8 year olds wear the same thing as the flower girls and have them walk first.  Make them part of the bridal party like Kate Moss. 

Post # 6
368 posts
Helper bee

@MrsLulu:  I was going to suggest the same thing. 8 years old is fine for a flower girl (and they can also be given the task of looking after younger flower girls/ring bearers during the ceremony). Remember how cute all the little girls were in Kate Middleton’s wedding?

Post # 7
211 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think those jobs are stupid. Or lighting candles at the ceremony, introducing the couple at the reception, saying grace. I have a whole bunch of neices and nephews and I am asking them all to do little jobs, so they feel included.

Post # 8
3697 posts
Sugar bee

Definitely have them hand out programs, man the guest book … your venue might allow you to deputize them as “cake servers” … when my sister got married a few years ago, she had a couple of little cousins as “train bearers” (may or may not work depending on your gown) … at weddings in my family, instead of putting favors on the tables we usually have the little cousins go around the reception and pass them out, so I’ll be asking a couple of my cousins to do this … someone mentioned candlelighters …

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