(Closed) HELP! Need some advice…letting my boss know?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: When should I tell my office?
    December (16 weeks) : (38 votes)
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  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @camrie:  This is going to sound terrible, but once they know you are pregnant, you can’t be let go (it’s discrimination).  So.  If you are worried, I would tell them sooner rather than later.  Common practice in my office is 12-16 weeks.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I would let them know sooner. For me personally, I would feel guilty not giving my boss the heads up. They may need time to make some arrangements and it would be helpful for the office in general to be more prepared for your departure. Maybe they might even want you to train a temp that will cover for you over mat leave.

    In any case, don’t be concerned about loosing your job over being pregnant because that’s illegal. The last thing any smart business would want is a human rights case on their hands and that’s exactly what they would get if they cut you loose because you are pregnant (especially if you can prove that you were an asset with meeting your billable goals before you annouced your pregnancy).

    Good luck with your decision.

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    If it were me, I would wait until after Thanksgiving and tell them then.

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @camrie:  I totally understand how you feel and my heart goes out to you.  As a lawyer in a competitive field, I am terried of how having a baby will effect my career.  It absolutely infuriates me that women have to worry about these issues, but that is a rant for another post…

    In terms of your current situation, 3 months maternity leave is not all that much time in the grand scheme of things, especially if your office has 5-6 months to prepare for it.  If you continue working hard and doing your job well, that is what your boss will recognize – and he/she will be eager to have you back!

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee

    @septcabride:  They can absolutely let you go.  It can’t be due to pregnancy but there’s plenty of other things that they can say it was due to. 

    I announced very early on at my job that I was pregnant because I worked with things that are very dangerous to developing babies, causing miscarriages and birth defects.  I ended up quitting within a month of letting them know I was pregnant because of how they treated me afterwards.  They treat everyone like crap there (though they’d been nice to me) and I wasn’t the only one to quit so I don’t have much of a discrimination case and don’t really want to go there but there’s no doubt in my mind that they went from being super excited to have someone who was highly trained in their field and so were being exceptionally nice to me (while they were mean to everyone else) to becoming bullies who make it difficult to take appropriate precautions for the health of your baby.  Bad, bad situation.

    @camrie: – I don’t know if you know others who have announced pregnancy but I’d try to use them as a gauge.  Are you planning on taking a Christmas break?  You might want to take that into consideration too since they might start scrutinizing your time off more closely if they know you’ll be taking a leave in the summer.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    They can’t let you go based on your pregnancy. Tell them sooner. I would be upset if I were a boss and found out you had waited to tell me.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Depending on how small your office is they can let you go because you’re pregant. I work with 1 other employee and then our boss. Once I’m pregnant I know I’m out of my job.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’m not an expert, but in my opinion, I think you are safe. Sure, they could let you go and say it was because you had the least amount of seniority or some other non pregnancy related reason, but I bet they wouldn’t. It would look suspicious, especially given your work performance, and I bet they wouldn’t risk it.  I would tell them soon. The more time they have to prepare, the better.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    As a person who runs a small business (under 20 employees) I would like to be notified sooner rather than later.  Most businesses have slower months so maybe that’ll work to your advantage with your mat leave.  Maybe not.  But while you can’t fire someone b/c they are pregnant you can be downsized (along with other people).  I would keep an employee who was doing her hours and who had 3 months of mat leave looming over someone who is not pregnant and not making hours.  It’s a sticky situation.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @troubled:  I am really sorry about what happened to you, but what happened is illegal.  You would have have a very good discrimination case if you had not quit (and a very good retaliation case in any scenario).  Just because something is illegal, doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen… but it should lessen the chances.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    @camrie:  Haha.  Sure.  But I don’t deal with PR 🙂

     

    I’m surprised you don’t have the standard 3 months though.

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