Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married this summer at my church. We are expecting 300 people, but have had to trim our guest list significantly to get down to 300 (we are both from big church communities). One of the women in my church offered to throw me a shower, but I am not sure whether or not to do a broad invite of some kind or only extend invites to those on our guest list? What is the etiquette for this situation? Also, we do have a lot of out of town guests who will be receiving invites early ~ Depending on the responses, we may be able to invite more guests locally, but we wont know early enough to help with shower planning!
I would really appreciate any help!
Post # 3
etiquette states that only people invited to the wedding should be invited to showers. i understand your dilemma because i am having a destination wedding and the ladies in the small town where i grew up want to throw a shower for me, unfortunately not all are invited to the wedding. what my mom is suggesting to them is that once we get back from the wedding and visit the US (since we live abroad as well) that it would be very nice to have a post-wedding party and people are really excited about that. not sure if that could be an option for you in order to celebrate with your whole church ‘community’…
hope this helps!
Post # 4
MissDane is correct in stating the etiquette. I actually really like the idea your Mom came up with MissDane! Stephanie, you should see if that works for your community or at least express your concerns with the ladies that want to set this up for you that are invited,
Post # 5
Thank you for the help! Do you know if a Bridal Tea is the same etiquette? Also, if my future mother in law wants to plan a shower or tea in her community, should I mention this? Or would it be best to let her make her own call on guests?/