(Closed) HELP! Never been to a bachelorette party but I’m planning one!

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
5282 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

You don’t have to send physical invites – I’ve seen both (emails/e-vites and physical invites) so whatever is easier for you.

Since the bride gave you a list of ppl to invite, I would ask her for their addresses – or I know my Maid/Matron of Honor wanted to send an e-vite so she sent all of them messages on FB (she didn’t know everyone either)

Since it sounds like the bride wants all the fun/common bachelorette party stuff – be sure to get her a veil, sash, other things for her to wear that night. You can find all kinds of bachelorette games and stuff at sex shops.

We got dressed in our hotel room – so I would ask the bride if she would like to do this, if not I would say dinner at 6 and then party till the wee hours!

Post # 4
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I just got back from Vegas for my cousins wedding. It was a long weekend of events:

Thursday was the bachelor & bachelorettes parties……

Her Maid/Matron of Honor planned our night out. What she did was send out EVITES to everyone. She made them really cute and explained the itinerary of what we would be doing and the cost and then each person could RSVP through the EVITE.

We were responsible for our cover charge into a club (that included some drinks, she pre-arranged the rate on their bachelorette specials). So that was $25 (included cover charge and 2 drink coupons each)

We were also supposed to pay for our dinner…..(but when the check came my cousin whipped out her credit card as a surprise..she was happy to have all us girls with her and she paid)

The Maid/Matron of Honor had already booked a room for us to stay the night and also to meet to have pre-party cocktails (The Venetian – expensive) and she paid for it. Didn’t ask us to chip in for that. (although we would have..it was so nice and convenient too)

The Maid/Matron of Honor bought all the decorations, drinks & snacks for the room. She was going to pay for a stripper…but if we went to a strip club we would have paid our way in.




Post # 5
3942 posts
Honey bee

Here are my answers. The etiquette gods might not agree, but this is what I have seen and done in the past.

  • Yes, I think its fine to send a mass email. You probably want to coordinate with the bridesmaids before though to find a date that works for them.
  • Yup, I think its a great idea to facebook the girls you dont know and get their email addresses. Every bachelorette i have been to has been super informal
  • Generally everyone but the brides split the cost of everything. If someone isnt staying in the hotel then of course they wouldnt chip in for that
  • It depends what you guys have planned for the day  but if youre doing dinner and then out, I would probably meet around 5ish? This gives everyone time to meet at the hotel, have a few drinks, play silly games, and then head out to dinner



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