Post # 1
Hey, So I live in an apartment and have since I left my parents house (many moons ago) so i’m pretty used to apartment living. I completely understand that when you share walls/ceilings there is going to be noise but I am becoming SUPER annoyed with my upstairs neighbors.
I honestly don’t know if i have grounds to complain or not because its not like they are playing loud music or partying or anything. Its almost as if they are working out or kids are running around or both. Its footsteps (extremely loud footsteps) and it almost sounds like they keep dropping things on the ground. Normally i would let it slide but it happened ALL WEEKEND. Sunday morning from 7am -10am constant noise, walking around, things dropping just clinks and clanks but mostly footfall. Then again from 4:30 – 5 this morning! – My husband and I were just laying in bed like WTF seriously?! this is just bananas, It took everything i had not to go bang on their door. I should not be able hear you every time you walk from your bedroom to your bathroom to your kitchen, back to your bedroom. I seriously laid there and wondered what they were doing up there, Their floorplan is the exact same as ours and i cannot figure out how they have that much room to move around and make that much noise haha.
I should note, we have lived in this apartment for just over a year and didn’t really have issues before but this has been happening for the past couple weekends (all at random times) and i should also note we are on the first floor on and end unit so we are constantly getting noise from outside (people walking their dogs, trains, the airport is nearby so there are planes) all this stuff i can deal with and it doesnt bother me but there is just something so annoying about someone banging on your ceiling…it’s like they are invading your personal space… i do not want to feel annoyed in my own home. I really don’t think i’m being unreasonable because I understand there is going to be noise but it should not be as constant as this and at odd times when most people are in bed.
anyone else been in this situation? I’m not sure if the best course of action is to wait for it to happen again and go up there and talk to them personally? should i go to the leasing office first and mention it to them? should i just wait it out and see if it gets better?
Post # 3
We have the exact same problem. I’ve pretty much gotten used to it and hardly notice it anymore, but my husband is really bothered by it. As much as he wants to say something to them, I won’t let him because I feel lile its kind of crazy to tell someone not to walk around their own apartment.
Post # 4
@msfahrenheit: I completely understand that but this isn’t normal walking haha. I’m normally the one to not want confrontation but my husband and I are both so annoyed by this. We never had this problem with the previous people who lived up there. Plus who walks around their apartment THAT much? literally hours…i mean unless you are cleaning or something but still the noise level is not just normal walking around your apartment.
I know whoever is up there had kids over this weekend because i could hear laughing and running around 10pm last night. luckily we were still watching tv and not getting in bed yet. It’s just quite annoying early in the mornings (on a weekend when we can sleep in!!) or around bedtime (on a weeknight when we have to get up in the morning) or like last night in the middle of the night when they force me awake and hour and half before my alarm goes off.
other than those crucial times i could really care less about it.
Post # 5
Oh man, that’s definitely one thing I’m looking forward to once we get an actual house… no more connected neighbors! I would try to hold off for another weekend since the noise hasn’t been ongoing for the year that you’ve lived there, BUT you definitely have a right to put in a noise complaint if it’s going on between 4:30-5am. It’s just unreasonable to be making that much noise at those hours.
If it makes you feel any better, we hear our neighbor’s Keurig machine EVERY time they make a drink in the morning and the evening. It’s a low droning buzz and they probably have no idea we hear it. Fiance and I finally figured out it was a Keurig machine after we visited a bed and breakfast that had one for guests to use. The second the machine started our coffee, we looked at each other and were like, “THAT’S what we keep hearing!” LOL
Post # 6
I can see how it’s annoying, but at the same time, they aren’t ridiculous hours to be up. Being up at 7 on the weekends isn’t exactly abnormal, and 4:30 is actually when I get up, so I’m now thinking that my neighbors below me might hate me, too! I think if you had grounds to complain, it would be from the noises at 4:30, but I think you may just have to deal with your early-rising neighbors on the weekends. Hopefully you’ll adjust and be able to sleep through it!
Post # 7
@GeorgiaTeacup: haha thats funny! i have a keurig – wonder if they can hear it? I seriously cannot wait to buy a house for this reason. I’ve lived with attached neighbors long enough that the little things dont bother me like flushing toilets or running water or even the occasional drop or footsteps but his is so constant is weird – i never walk around my apartment that much. haha Thanks for the input though, I know it can go both ways and that there is def a chance they can here us too.
guess this is what i get for living on the first floor haha – i just always remember being cautious of who was below me and how much noise i made when i lived on a higher level.
Post # 8
@abbie017: I guess your right about the times – it’s more the duration of the noise than when its actually happening. There is just nothing worse than sitting in your house thinking about what the people upstairs are doing. Its pretty impossible to ignore and i’m really not one to complain about these sorts of things but its getting harder and harder to just let it go. It’s happened more than just this weekend but I think this weekend was getting to the breaking point.
Post # 9
@totheislnds: Oh my gosh! I had this problem. I will never again live on the first floor. The neighbors upstairs would walk/ stomp loudly and the floorboards were unbelievably loud. As a neighbor, I walk softly at night, and these people didn’t get it. It was impossible to relax or sleep. All night, the guy above our bedroom was talking- talking (on computer or his phone?) and it drove me nuts! We had to move!
Post # 10
Get a broom and bang on the ceiling. That always worked in DH’s old apartment. His neighbors were so loud and their kids thought it was funny we could hear them.
Post # 11
I would say something to someone in the office. That would not fly with me at all. I have a neighbor who is up at 4am every morning walking around outside and it makes the dogs go insane. Only problem is she is deaf so I KNOW she has no idea how loud she is so I say nothing plus her yard backs up to my fence so I can’t stop her. In your case living in an apartment I think you would be right to mention how loud they are being.
Post # 12
Oh MAN! My neighbour does this too, and for some reason, he wears hard-soled shoes when he does it! He works from home, and I suspect (maybe?) that he’s pacing while on business calls? Hence what sounds like dress shoes? Just like you, we’ve been wracking our brains for a year and a half trying to figure out HOW THE HECK someone can walk around so much in an 800sq foot condo! We’ve never drummed up the courage to say anything though, because as a previous poster pointed out, how do you tell someone not to walk around? Plus, we figure that it gives us a free pass to make noise too. If they ever complain, we can come back with “well we’ve been listening to you walk around in circles for 10 hours a day since we moved in so…”
Post # 13
Good for you for understanding that some noise is part of apartment living. For the noise that’s too loud or at unreasonable times, you could talk to management. It’s possible that your neighbors don’t have any idea how loud it is for you. We’re on the top floor of our apartment building, so we don’t have upstairs neighbors, so we have no idea if our downstairs neighbors can hear us walking around or whatever.
Post # 14
We had this problem in our first apartment when new neighbors moved in above us and I worked from home. It was so loud and my light fixture would shake at times. I finally made Fiance go up and talk to them. They told him the kids were playing video games and fighting over Play Station, which would explain the shakeing of the celing. However, they did not get better and then we made a formal complaint where we learned they were problem tenants in many ways. I know how annoying this situation can be but would suggest you bring it to their attention before making a formal complaint. If they are not aware of it, they may appriciate you giving them a heads up before escalating the issue. I would also disagree with a PP that 4:30 is not an appropriate time to wake up and when people do wake up at such hours, they should be considerate of others. Also, check if your building has any sort of noise rules, where I live now, we are expected to be mostly quiet from like 8pm to 7am and on Sunday (no loud music, consturction, etc). My husband made the mistake of hammering a shelf on Sunday and after only 2 nails, a neighbor was at our door making him stop.
Post # 15
@cbee: I’d rather not have to move but would consider it IF things didn’t get better after a while. I’m hoping this will be our last year in an apartment.
@PinkMagnolia: I thought about that! haha on sunday morning I almost threw my book at the ceiling I was so angry. I’m a really patient person too and one that avoids most confrontation but its just getting to the point where i don’t even care and I need to do something before i fly off the handle.
@mixtapehearts: Thanks for the suggestion – I just dont understand how some people can be so inconsiderate. After all my years of apartment living this is by far the worst neighbor i’ve ever had.
@MissNoodles: Good point! and something i will def keep in mind. but seriously, wtf are they doing up there? haha i don’t understand.
@Gemstone: I totally get that apartment living isn’t going to be quiet – i really wanted people to understand that i’m not just being knit picky and that i see this as an issue and not just complaining to complain. I really would rather not have to deal with this issue at all haha. I have lived on top floors too and whenever we had people over i would remind them there are people below us and if i ever dropped anything i would silently be like oh crap! sorry!
@slicey19: I think this is the route i need to take, thanks! I’m going to just let it go for now but next time i’ll march up there and in my calmest voice let them know how much we can actually hear and if things still don’t change then i’ll go to management.
I’m trying to be patient guys! i really am.
Post # 16
I feel your pain, I had this problem too. When my new upstairs neighbors moved in they removed alll of the rugs/carpeting and suddenly I could hear every single movement. I could not figure out how my neighbors managed to make so much noise or why they were walking around so much in their apartment. It sounded like they were playing jacks, or bowling. Since it seems like a relatively new problem, maybe they had carpeting before and recently removed it? I would try talking to them and see if they would consider putting rugs in the highly trafficked areas. Also check your lease, since I know that many leases in NYC state that a certain percentage of hardwood floors must be covered with carpeting.
We eventually talked to our neighbors, and they were really nice about it but it didn’t change anything. They did feel terrible, but it turns out they were already making huge efforts to be quiet since they had the same problem with their neighbors upstairs. They didn’t wear shoes inside, tried to walk with a light step etc, but it turns our that our building just had terrible insulation. They only thing that could have helped was if they put down rugs, but one of them had allergies and wasn’t willing to do that. Good luck, I know how frustrating it is. I eventually moved, and will never live in a non top floor apartment ever again.