Post # 1

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Blushing bee
Hi Bee’s!
I need a little help from the Catholic Bee’s ( or Catholic marrying Protestant bee’s).
Though i’m not engaged yet, I know he has the ring and I think its coming this weekend. I already have an issue that I want to have resolved sooner rather then later.
I am Presbyterian, and my SO is Catholic. We discussed quite early on in our relationship that when we got married that I would get married in the Catholic Church for him, as it is important that our marriage be recognized and that our children be raised Catholic. The reason being that my religion does not have an issue with me being married outside of our church, where the Catholic church would not recognize us or our children.
Also, to further complicate things, we wont be getting married in his church as he is Croatian and his priest will not do mass in English. So we need to find a Catholic Church that will marry a non member and a non Catholic. Is this even possible??
Post # 3

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Busy bee
@MsLouella: Would his parish permit him to have an English speaking priest to come in for your wedding? I’m allowed to bring in any priest I want as long as I get permission from my parish.
Post # 4

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Sugar bee
@MidwestBride2012: <– +1
This will be the easiest way to do it, logistically. If he wants to get married in a parish other than the one where he’s a member, it’s definitely possible – but it’s up to the host parish and their individual rules. It will automatically involve some extra paperwork, and probably a higher fee. If you can get another priest to come to FI’s home church, there will still be a little extra bureaucracy involved, but it will be the easiest way to do it.
If it turns out that isn’t an option, though, don’t worry, you will still be able to marry in the church. It will just take some extra looking.
Post # 5

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Blushing bee
I never thought about having another priest come into the church. Thank you so much ladies this helps.
Post # 6

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Worker bee
You may have to take some classes. But I’m going to warn you: some Catholic churches will come off as cold and rude. My best friend wasn’t Catholic, wanted to marry in a Catholic church, and several churches were extremely discouraging. This is do-able though. Good luck.
Post # 7

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Sugar bee
@anghp: Was she marrying a Catholic? If so, it probably would have been best to have the Catholic half of the couple make the phone calls – that probably would have elicited a better response. If not, why did she want to get married in a Catholic church?