(Closed) Help- not wanting a "formal" wedding/reception..

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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11 posts
Newbee

You sound like a “style me pretty” bride! I think you should check out that site immediately for some ideas. If you want to keep it casual but still be a wedding, they have some amazing pictures to look at. 

Post # 4
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10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

You could also try Offbeat Bride for less traditional weddings. Do what you’re comfortable and will  be happy with! 

Post # 5
Bee
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

Girl, you can do whatever you and your Fiance want! It’s your day, and I think the options are limitless. My husband and I are very laid-back, untraditional people, so we used our wedding as an opportunity to show our friends and family what we’re all about. We love BBQ more than fancy chicken or beef dishes, so we served BBQ with a mashed potato bar, and it was a huge hit. We don’t really like cake, so we hired an ice cream truck – and again, everyone talked about it for a long time after the wedding. We are outdoorsy people and wanted to get married outside under the trees, so we held our whole ceremony and reception outdoors, and it was very romantic, especially when the sun went down and all the trees were lit up with little lights. I didn’t care if my bridesmaids matched, and I let them pick out their own shoes and dresses – and they were really happy and looked beautiful.

I say, ditch the books, and find inspiration from wedding blogs and from your own ideas (sounds like you already have a lot of ideas of your own!). I spent a lot of time on Ruffled, Green Wedding Shoes, 100 Layer Cake, Junebug Weddings, and Offbeat Bride… Maybe you’ll find some inspiration from those blogs.

Also: I think you should read “A Practical Wedding.” It’s very short and won’t take you any time at all to read, but it will help you feel justified and secure in your decisions to skip wedding traditions and do things your own way. A ton of other bees have also gotten a lot out of that book, I would highly recommend it.

P.S. When we were doing premarital counseling, our pastor told us that all you NEED to get married is vows. That’s it. Everything else is a bonus. Start with that, and build on it with your own ideas. Instead of filling out some kind of checklist, we planned our wedding from the ground up, and it was a huge success. 

Post # 6
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3211 posts
Sugar bee

It’s your wedding, go ahead and wear your wedding dress to a backyard bbq! I am having a catered backyard wedding and I will also be in a wedding dress. I think it’ll make for great pictures.

Post # 8
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1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Well I don’t know how many guests you have but also check out intimateweddings.com they have a lot less traditional weddings highlighted on there as well 

Post # 9
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594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Mrs. Wallaby:  I TOTALLY agree with everything you said. Word on the blogs, I love those blogs. 

Def untraditional bride over here and I am excited to show people what we are all about ;p 

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