@Hyperventilate: (Reply # 10) –> 100% THIS
I am a Mom… and IF my kids were Engaged, I’d be excited about their happiness. IF then at some point their partner called it off, I’d be EQUALLY concerned about their happiness.
Engagement is the period of time that a couple prepares for Marriage, IT IS ALSO the period of time when the two families prepare to come together to support the two… as everyone blends into one GREATER family.
The fact that your BF called off the Engagement speaks volumes
IF you guys are NOT Engaged and therefore moving towards Marriage
WHERE does that leave your Relationship now.
THAT is the Question your Family is wondering, and the same one you need to be asking yourself.
It is UNUSUAL that a couple can regroup after a Withdrawn Proposal… I sure as heck couldn’t do it.
As it clearly would mean to me that I and my Partner weren’t on the same page, moving towards the same things
BUT ONLY YOU can work thru this, decide, live with the situation
In some ways you don’t have to explain your choices to anyone… BUT at the same time you have to realize that your Family WILL LOVE YOU FOREVER… even if some guy won’t.
(Sadly it is true… SOs come and go, but kids are forever)
That is IMO what they are trying to tell you… without so much as saying those words.
I’d put a bit more creedence into what they are feeling, as the loss of your Engagement, is a sort of loss for them as well
One that they obviously seem worth Questioning the whole idea of maintaining a relationship with
(( HUGS ))