Post # 1
Hi Ladies! To make a long story short, my fiance and I are getting married in St. Thomas, just the two of us in May. He has been married once before, and we both are pretty shy people who really just wanted to be alone on the day of our wedding. Well, my mom really wants to throw us a reception, so I agreed and she is throwing us one in June. We are having a DJ to play music, and there is a dance floor, but we both are NOT dancers at all! A few questions I have would be, should we treat this just like a reception after a wedding, with first dances, bridal dance, throwing the bouquet, garter, etc? Or, since this is a month after our wedding, just have music playing while we eat dinner, do the cake cutting, and then if anyone wants to dance, they can?? Has anyone been in this situation before and what did you do? And does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks a lot!!
Post # 3
I wasa guest at a reception like you described and it was the second scenario. There was music, food, cake but none of the other typical reception stuff other than a few toasts. Some people danced but it wasn’t a big focus.
Post # 4
I would strongly recommend that you check out offbeatbride.com. There are only non-conventional weddings and receptions there! And the folks who comment are nice, supportive and helpful.
Post # 5
We’re going with the first situation and everyone is excited about it! Since you are more shy though and don’t like to be the center of attention I’d go with the second scenario and people will be happy either way! 🙂
Post # 6
Welcome! Even if you were having a traditional church/dinner wedding, there is nothing that says you HAVE to do all those traditions. Lots of the brides on here pick and choose which they want and don’t. A lot of people are dropping or changing the garter toss/bouquet toss, some people do a first rock band song or first shot, and some don’t even want to be announced. Do what makes you feel comfortable, but since your mom is throwing the party, you should be clear and direct with her about what you both want and don’t want before she starts making a lot of plans. That way she doesn’t assume you want one thing when you would rather not.
Post # 7
Nicole my sister had a very conservative wedding/reception. Possibly more subdued than yours will be. Neither one of them to this day drink or dance. There was no dj, as a matter of fact I don’t even think she had music playing at all but what she did do was have a slideshow set to music with pictures of she and her husband from when they were kids to when they met. Of course that didn’t take up much time. After that everyone was mingling, eating, drinking and having a good time just doing that. It was a very nice reception.
I’m sure yours will be too. Good luck and congrats!!!