- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Hi ladies!I am new to the boards. I have been reading posts for about a month and have now decided to join! I am hoping some of you will be able to give me a bit of advice and hopefully make me feel a little bit less crazy.
First let me tell you a little bit about me and my SO. We have been dating for almost 6 years now and I unofficially moved in with him approx 4-6 months ago (his parents house is way closer my work and I was staying over a few nights a week and before I knew it I was staying here atleast 6/7 nights a week). We are planning on moving in to an apartment on our own in a year when I start back at college. Both of us knew early on in our relationship that we wanted to get married but we didnt put much thought in to making it happen until a couple months ago. Last month we went on a trip to Georgia where we decided to go mining for gemstones. We found some awesome gems and we decided to get my engagement ring made from the gems that we found. We also got him what i like to call a “mangagement ring” that has a gem that will be cut from the same stone as the accents on my ring. Anyways we are suppose to be getting the rings in the mail by the end of next week but i dont get to wear it until he decides to officially propose. Sometime in the next couple of months once he finds a fulltime job and finds the courage to ask my dads permission. Hopefully with him having a ring he will want to wea but cant until I have mine, he will hurry up and make it happen asap. So here starts my dilemma. His family knows all about the ring and the pending engagement as do my two closest friends who are both recently engaged within the past year and a bit. But my family doesn’t know anything yet. I really want to start planning but I feel like I can’t do too much without my moms knowledge because my parents will be paying most of the bill for the wedding.
Anyways, a couple of weeks ago I went to a bridal show with one of my friends and she convinced me to go as a “bride-to-be” but then I felt a little silly thinking well i dont even have a ring on my finger so what will everyone think. (i know i care way too much and overthink everything!) so my SO told me to just put my promise ring that he gave me for our 1 year anniversary on my left hand and so i did. It just felt weird though with all the vendors cngratulating me on an engagement that hasnt happened yet. So now this sunday I am going to another bridal show and i havent yet decided whether to do the same thing or not. But the bigger dilemma is that after the show we have an appt to go look at bridesmaid dresses for my friends wedding because i am her Maid/Matron of Honor. She wants me to try on a couple of bridal dresses while we are there though and i don’t know what to do. I really can’t wait to try on dresses but I worry that its is a) bad luck to try on dresses before you are engaged and b) that i will seem like a total crazy person for trying them on without a ring on my finger yet… i guess i also worry that if i find one i like and they put it on my file at the store that my mom will be upset that I tried it on before i was engaged or that she will be upset i didn’t go dress shopping with her first. So yeah I guess I just want to know what other people think. Do you think it is bad luck to try dresses on before having a ring on my finger even though I know it will be coming soon? Do I sound like a complete lunatic? Should I just wait to try them on with my mom once I have a ring even though I am kind of excited to have an opportunity to sooner? And should I go to the bridal show as a bride to be or should i just go as my friend’s moh?
PLEASE HELP!! Any advice is welcome!