Post # 1
I’m going to the store to get my BFF something for her bridal shower… Here’s the thing, I checked her registry and I pretty much hate everything on it 😛 I know the point of it is that it’s things they need (for the household) but it’s really expensive, but totally impersonal stuff. My thoughts are, I’d rather spend that kind of money and get her something from the heart (make her a “tea” basket, cause she loves tea… or make an emergency wedding kit with some funny/quirky things in it (like underwear, cause we joked about how she’ll probably forget to wear it))
My question is, would you (if you were her) rather get something that’s maybe not on your registry, but has a little more sentimental (and useful) value or should I just suck it up and get her what she put on the list?
Post # 3
Hmmm, maybe if you know for a fact its stuff she’ll use, put the basket together for her. We didn’t get everything we wanted on our list, but some things I liked even more and never would have thought of
Post # 4
I’d love it if one of my friends got me something personal. I think its sweet and shows how well you know her.
Post # 5
I think you should stick with the registry, because it is stuff they want or need. You could maybe do a small item of both you want to do the personal. And honestly the registry if for them not for you to like.
Post # 6
I think it’s nice that you are trying to get a personal gift and putting some thought into it, but I voted registry. It’s hard for me to envision though because I personally wouldn’t want these things. Do you think she would like these things more? I know she likes tea, but would she want a basket of it? I also wouldn’t want to get a pair of regular underwear from a friend at a bridal shower that wasn’t a lingerie shower, it would be awkward.
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s necessary to stick to the registry, if you’re not feelin’ anything on it and have another idea in mind that you think your friend would love.
BUT – I would avoid getting any item that she has a different one of on the registry. So if she has a coffee maker, don’t get her a different coffee maker, etc. Other than that go for it! At my shower I received a few gifts that were not on my registry and they were extra special because of the thought that went into them.
Post # 8
Wedding registry items ARE impersonal and not fun…but that’s what they want.
I guess if you can think of something that would be personal AND useful, then I’m sure she’d appreciate it, but seriously, I’d just buy off the registry.
Post # 9
Thats a tough 1. If issue is the price you shouldn’t feel obligated to buy off the registry. But I would probably stay away from consumable items. I’d go with something that she will be able to keep, and when sees it, or uses it reminds her of you.
An old friend of mine joked? that he was going to get us a silver squirrel, now obviously it’s not something I would register for… but I really hope he finds 1!! From anyone else that gift would seem really weird, but from him it would be awesome, it would have a lot of meaning behind it.
Post # 10
Does she have any smaller items on her registry at all? I love the idea of taking something from her registry and then building the basket around that to make it more personal. If she did happen to register for a tea pot, then it would be perfect to build a tea basket around that to personalize it. Or if she registered for a cookie sheet, you could include that in a basket with some cookie mix.
Post # 11
Haha – see… the thing is, she’s a wacky person and she wouldn’t be uncomfortable or awkward with goofy gifts (this is a girl who talks about bodily functions in public like a fourteen year old boy :-P)
I just wasn’t sure if it was bad etiquette to get something not on the list, but the more I think about it, the more I’m realizing her personality doesn’t call for etiquette… she’s a nut, and she’ll love something nutty and fun 🙂
Post # 12
@thesejoys: I voted for the sentimental option,but I like your suggestion better!
I know that I realllly want the stuff I registered for…Id rather people get what I picked out…although I would still appreciate any gift, especially if someone wanted to put more thought and work into it…
Post # 13
I would just get her something from the registry, and maybe add a smaller, additional gift that is more personal as well. But they registered for those things because they need/want them, so even if they’re boring to you, they’re VERY appreciated by the bride and groom! I like to do this; just buy something off the registry, and then throw in something extra I like- a nice cookbook, or a set of monogrammed linen hand towels. Best of both worlds.
Post # 14
I think it depends on what you think your friend would really want and need. I also think you should keep the mood of the shower and type of guests at the shower in mind. If it is a formal type of event, then I would stick to the registry and give her a personal gift at another time or give her a combination of both a registry and personal item.
Post # 15
Here’s what I would do:
If you want to get something nice, that isn’t on the registry, go with an oil lamp. Wal-Mart (and Target) have nice ones and they’re perfect for when you loose power. And we know it happens, lol. You can also get some cute personal stuff for her as well.
That’s the route I would go. But then… I don’t like registries and who can’t use an oil lamp? Especially if you get pretty colored oil to go in the clear lamp??? AND it would be easier to make a basket with THOSE items than most of the stuff found on a registry….
Post # 16
I said to be creative, but only if you really really know her. Because I’m sure plenty of those gift horror stories come from people who are trying to do something fun and creative for the couple. Or maybe you could dress up a registry gift – like if she registered for a teapot, you could buy the teapot and then bring a basket of teas. But otherwise, if you really know her tastes, it’s probably alright to go off-book.