(Closed) Help out a bee who wants to please everyone…

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I sure wouldn’t. This is your special time, you shouldn’t invite someone who you know will ruin your day. Thatbeing said be sure to tell your FI about it and your concerns so he can understand and have your back if anyone says anything.

Post # 4
710 posts
Busy bee

In terms of the wanting to please everyone, are you conflicted about this because you want to please your fiancé or you want to please his mother?

Post # 5
479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would say invite her. It would be rude not to do so.  She is not a reflection of you or your fiance.  If your family has opinions on her behavior, that’s fine, but you should not let what others may think bother you.

Post # 6
5704 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

How does your FI feel about it?  

I’d probably not invite her.  Unless you think it’s likely that she’d turn down the invite?  That wold be perfect.

Post # 8
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mrsbordoni:  I would give a quiet heads up to your family about FMIL.  Something like ” I’m really looking forward to my shower.  I just heard back from FMIL and she will be coming.  She can be difficult at times but it would mean a lot to me if we all had a nice day, so I’m hoping everyone from our side of the family can bring some extra patience that day.” Then I would talk to FI or FSIL about running interference and pulling FMIL to the side if she gets too out of hand.

Post # 12
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@mrsbordoni:  i would say yes only b.c. better to see her act badly now then at the wedding it will be worse if they never ever seen her do it it will take some shock out 

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