(Closed) Help out a hateful bee…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9567 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I am sorry I can’t help you, I hold onto things for years as well. But it is not healthy at all for either of us to hold onto the negatives.

Post # 5
9567 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@AlmostMrsShield:  Yeah I know how you feel. Just reliving the moment or hateful things said in your mind can change your mood completely. I can’t advise whether this is normal or whether you should be seeing someone about this, as I am already seeing a psychiatrist for a few illnesses.

Post # 6
8122 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@AlmostMrsShield:  It is an aussie thing in so much as aussies are less into the therapy thing. It is still seen as a weakness here to admit that you are seeing a therapist when it should actually been seen as a strength to truthfully acknowledge that they need help. Although I do think some countries are too reliant on therapy.

But honestly I think you need to speak to someone.




Post # 7
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Ah I’m a similar way. I just remember how someone has wronged me and sometimes I get so angry I start feeling physically ill. And I’m also.jealous though luckily dh doesn’t mind!

Post # 8
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@AlmostMrsShield:  All those emotions you feel are reactions to real hurts… you learned to react that way, it is naturally how you react now but it was learned 


you can learn to let go b.c. the reason you hold a grudge when you get upset b.c. you feel someone is trying to emotionally hurt you is b.c you been hurt b4 so you hold a grudge to avoid it happening again 


you are jealous b.c. you have been hurt or betrayed, but you really must breath b4 reacting with tese feeligns remember the person who are dealing with is not the same one who might have hurt you 


things people do with out thought that does hurt you might not be with malace you need to always breath and think before recacting 


work on it remind your self who it is if someone hurts you and what kidna intentions they have it will help you let go if you know they are 


if your jealous remember your partner lvoes you and thought a girl might flirt or he might smile thats just human nature to smile and be friendly he likely wouldn’t ever go past that …. or maybe he is innocent maybe he doesnt even smile maybe is just a good looking fun sweet guy so girls flirt that doesnt change how he feels for you 


if you feel all these things maybe go talk to someone get someoen to help you work through and deal with things you deserve it go see someoen who can help you work through it so you can be a happier person you and your partner and the people in your lifes all deserve it 

Post # 10
3028 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

If you can afford it, or if it’s covered by your health care ( you might have to tell your doctor what you told us), go see a therapist! It will do you no end of good!! Seriously. Hanging on to stuff is really bad for you. Talking about it with someone who is paid to listen AND help you get to the bottom of your issues is an amazing luxury. You deserve it!

Post # 15
9692 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@AlmostMrsShield:  I am not sure if this will help you, but I will tell you what works for me. I hate holding on to bad energy and stress is a leading cause of illness. When someone has done something to wrong me, I will write it all out. Writing is therapy for me and it helps to get it out one last time. Then I will either rip up the paper into a million pieces or burn it to symbolize letting it go.

The way I see it is this: the asshole in question did something terrible to you and ruined x number of days for you already. The asshole does not deserve to ruin any more days and cause you stress in the future. The asshole is not thinking about you anymore and you are not ruining his/her life so don’t let them to it to you. It is a conscious effort and decison for me. I just don’t let it fester.

If you have a favourite hobby or work out, engage in that. Distract yourself.

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