(Closed) Help!! Over a year and no thank-yous to some guests

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Definitely send them!  Yes, it’s embarrassing, but it’s the right thing to do.  A late thank you is better than no thank you.  It’s not like they’re going to forget that you didn’t thank them until they see the note.

Post # 4
46590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You already know the answer-write the thank you notes.

It takes less time to write the note- even including an apology for taking so long -than it took for your guests to shop, wrap and deliver your gift.

Post # 5
660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would send out the thank you notes. I have been known to procrastinate on all kinds of things and feel that it continues to bother me until I do something about it. I would say something like, “please forgive the delay in sending my note to thank you for sharing in our special day and for the beautiful (whatever).” Just force yourself to sit for 2 hours, write your heartfelt words and get those puppies in the mail.

Post # 6
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I agree, you definitely SHOULD send them.

That said, if it were me, I know I wouldn’t. But I’m a terrible example, don’t follow me!!! Do as I say, not as I would do, hahaha…

Post # 7
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Send them!!!

I went to TWO weddings, both sisters and they didnt send out thank you cards. TO THIS DAY i still think about how awful it was (mostly bc i was a broke student eating very little and doing nothing…but STILL got them a gift) NO THANK YOU…yeesh. If they gaveme one NOW (5 years later) I would be happy!!!! 🙂

So send one out, people will make comments about how late it was but i can bet they are making comments anyways about how they havent got one at all. SEND THEM PLEASE!!! Wink

Post # 8
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Yes, send them and send them as soon as possible.  As the other said a late thank you is better than no thank you.

Post # 9
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Yes – definitely – NO QUESTION – send them!!!

Post # 10
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Still send them. I went to the wedding of a high school friend and didn’t receive a thank-you from her until around a year later. A few months after the wedding, I was irritated that I had never gotten a Thank You, but when I did receive it, I was like, better late than never.

Post # 11
1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I missed a few shower thank you notes, and didn’t end up sending them late because things got crazy and then the wedding was there. There were a few that it was difficult to tell if they were shower or wedding gifts since they were sent to the house. I just send a wedding gift thankyou for those ones.

I would send them. Better late than never.

Post # 12
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Definitely send them! 

Post # 13
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yes, send them. It sucks because you arent going to be able to shake that feeling, but honestly I think its okay. People understand that things get hectic and I always think its better late than never! Dont beat yourself up over this – stuff happens!

Post # 14
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

LOL!  I would never have ever sent ANY thank you notes for ANYTHING if my mom hadn’t made me…  As in she got a box of thank you notes, a pen, a list of people who sent stuff, and pulled me over to the table and sat me down.  Not because I didn’t want to thank them (I mean, I either said thank you in person or over the phone), but because I’m a horrible procrastinator.  (I got a gift for a great aunt four years ago it’s still on my bookcase, packed, with two letters.) But yeah, send them.

Post # 15
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree — send them. Just include a little note about how you know it’s no excuse, but time sort of got away from you and that the lateness of this card is in no way indicative of the gratitude you felt. I think most people are much more sympathetic to procrastination than outright rudeness. The whole ‘better late than never’ thing…

Post # 16
948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

Send them & don’t worry about it too much 🙂

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