- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
Our wedding is only 80 days away and our pastor dropped a HUGE bomb on us via email today. Apparently, he has already committed to going to New York City the weekend of our wedding with his son’s high school choir. He said he wrote the date of the trip incorrectly in his calendar which is why he hadn’t told us sooner.
It wouldn’t be such a big deal… except for the fact that we’ve been going through pre-marital counseling with him for about 4 months already since it’s required by the church. It’s also been extremely helpful… my Fiance and I both enjoy going. Anyway, he is also our childhood pastor… we’ve known him for years. My Fiance and I met at the church where we are getting married, so the entire ceremony and the pastor were extremely important to us. In the email, I could tell that he was incredibly sorry. He explained that he thinks his son is struggling with his sexual identity, which obviously is very difficult for a family with Christian beliefs. So, he feels like this is one of his last opportunities to spend time with his son before he goes off to college next year. I’m not sure if he thinks his by spending time with his son that he may change his mind about his sexual beliefs, but this is all very very upsetting. We haven’t responded to his email yet. Both my parents and my fiance’s parents are very upset. Our pastor has already talked to another pastor at the church who is willing to step up and do the ceremony. However, we do not know this pastor at all.
I guess at this point there is really nothing we can do except go with this new pastor, but I am so hurt. How could he not be organized enough to tell us this 4 months ago? We could have started the whole pre-marital counseling with the other pastor and this wouldn’t have ever been a problem. He said that he wants to continue our pre-marital counseling and have the new pastor sit in with us so we can get a feel of who we are, etc. Ugggghhhh… I am totally heartbroken.