Post # 1
It’s crunch time, less than 3 weeks until my wedding. Today, after attempting to reschedule a phone conference with my photographer for tomorrow, I found out that his parents are really sick. He wont be in town until next Monday. His father has had a set back and he’s been in and out of the office for a while now. If he can’t speak with me next Monday, then his wife or one of his assistants will…
Not to be insensitive, I immediately panicked. If it’s bad enough that he’s leaving for a week at a time, then things must not be going well. So I asked, "He will be able to shoot the wedding wont he?". To which I got the response, most likely however if he can’t his wife is his back-up…phew…
I don’t know if I’m overreacting but I hired him, not her. I would like to deal with him, not her. She has gotten bad reviews from several of our friends and I’ve never seen any of her work or met her. I didn’t pay all this money to have someone I have no knowledge about photograph my wedding. I understand that things happen…my grandfather passed away 3 weeks ago. However, I don’t like the way they are dealing with this.
What should I do? If I can find a replacement I like, should I take it?
Post # 3
i think in this case, you should definitely go with your instincts. photography is so important and you don’t want to regret this decision. what does the contract say if he cannot make it to your wedding? does it say that you must use his wife as the photographer…or are you able to break the contract in that case?
Post # 4
I’m with novbride. You shouldn’t let this slide if you’re in any way uncomfortable with the idea of his wife shooting your wedding. However, you have to speak up NOW, when they haven’t done any work for you yet. If the contract says that the husband will be the one to do your photography, then you shouldn’t have to accept a back-up. I’d try to be nice about it, since this is a difficult time for their family, but tell them that since he can’t fulfill the contract you’ll have to take your money and try to find a different photographer that you can feel comfortable entrusting your wedding memories to.
If your contract doesn’t specifically state that the husband will be your photographer, and just says that the photography company as a whole will handle your wedding, then there’s not much you can do except try to meet with this woman as much as possible and make sure she understands what you want for your wedding day photography.
Post # 5
Aww. I am so sorry to hear about your dilemna. I am thinking about your question and instead I only have questions for you…
Do you have wedding insurance? Do you even have a replacement photog in mind? Do you have a contract with this vendor- so if he is unavailable, does his contract stipulate someone else (his associate/wife) would shoot it? (Otherwise if not, maybe you can get some money back?).
I tend to be a girl who likes back-up plans. If I were you I would set in motion a Plan B (in case, God forbid, his father’s health takes a turn for the worse) I would also… in the meantime… set up a picture site for guests to upload their pictures from your wedding so you have extra pictures (not in lieu of professional shots, but in addition to). Just in case the replacement photographer isn’t available for the full event.
I don’t know what you should do. Maybe stick to your gut and do what is best for you (peace of mind). Maybe you will be doing this vendor a favor by replacing him with someone else… But then again, maybe you should kindly ask to speak with him (instead of the wife) one more time to gage the scope of the situation and how it may or may not affect your event? I think that is fair.
Post # 6
I agree with novbride111. If the photographer’s wife has received bad reviews, then she’s not an acceptable option. Your wedding photos are too important to take that kind of risk. What about the other photogs in his office? Would any of them be a good substitute?
Ultimately, your options are dictated by your contract. If it stipulates that your wedding can be covered by anyone in your photographer’s company, you’re stuck. However, if the contract names one specific photog, then you have a little wiggle room.
-Budget and the Bride
Post # 7
I would think that finding a replacement at this date might be pretty difficult. I would definately read your contract, but before you go and make waves with your current photographer, I would certainly call around and see if you can get anybody else. I know that where I live, there are a limited number of professional photographers who are any good, and they book up months in advance at certain times of the year. And this is one of them – because although wedding season is slowing down, this is senior portrait time. So it’s hard to even get a couple of hours, let alone a whole day of the photographer’s time. You might be off the back end of that time period in three weeks, depending on when school starts where you live, but you don’t know until you start asking.