- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
So my fiance and I have been engaged for exactly 8 months as of yesterday and have made ZERO wedding plans. We are planning the wedding for August 2014, my parents are paying for most of it, and we’ve seen several venues–one we loved but that won’t work out because of the cost and having to make too many compromises to have it there, one my mom loves just because it’s the cheapest place we can find–it’s okay but it’s kinda ugly and just not what I like and my fiance hates it! There’s a venue I found before even getting engaged that I LOVED but I ruled out as too expensive, however we checked it out recently just because we’re running out of options and with a big cut to the guest list we could probably afford it. My fiance loved it, I think it’s gorgeous, but I have some concerns: the tented reception area is not as nice as I thought it would be and I don’t think we’d have money to make it any nicer, the price for rental is $4300 for a Friday which is a LOT more than other venues in the area…at least $2000 more, so I’m having trouble being ok with paying that much for a venue that isn’t as nice as I expected, BUT the overall cost is about the same for this venue as any other venue so maybe that shouldn’t be a big deal? My last concern is my mother!!! She hasn’t seen the venue in person, but I’m pretty sure she will hate the tent and I don’t want to book a venue with her money without her approval. My mom really wants me to get married in her yard, and I’d love to, but I think it will be too stressful on her (she gets pretty crazy even having a few people over for holidays, I can’t imagine what she’d be like with over 100 people at her house for a fancy wedding!). I can’t find the perfect venue that’s actually affordable and that my mom, my fiance and I ALL love. I’m not sure what to do. Do I have the wedding in my mom’s yard just to make her happy, even though I have a lot of concerns and my fiance isn’t too keen on the idea? Do I have the wedding at the venue my fiance loves and that I mostly love but am afraid my mom will hate? Or find a venue we ALL agree on and love even though I’m pretty positive that doesn’t exist!?