(Closed) Help planning a half destination wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Try looking online at reviews of places and pictures. The internet will be your only tool if you are not able to actually visit the places. I have done alont of stuff online and have yet to be disappointed. Just make sure you do your reserch about the places you might be ordering or making deals with for wedding stuff.

Post # 4
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mr TTR and I are Eloping to a Destination that we love… and have spent a fair bit of time vacationing in.  So we certainly know quite a bit about the area and what types of things are available as well as what is where in relation to where we normally stay etc.

The BEST WAY to begin the process is to create a check list of ALL the things you need to make this Wedding (and Reception ?) happen… I did one myself on Excel but there are pre-made ones on-line as well that you can use

In our case, we are having a Destination Wedding… followed by a Mini-Moon, and then a Back-Home Reception.

For the “away” Wedding Ceremony, we fortunately know what Venue we’ll be using (the Beach).  As well we are fairly familiar with the local Hotels, Restaurants etc. as a back-up plan in case of iffy weather.

This leaves us with “the details” for the Ceremony… Marriage License, Officiant, Flowers, Music, Decor, Photography and Videography.  All of which I am researching on-line (GOOGLE – Local Tourism & Wedding Websites – WBee – Reviews etc) and then contacting Vendors via e-mail or phone.  I can then line up appointments to meet with them in person the next time I am in the Destination to finalize things… make payments etc.

In our case we are having a Back Home Reception… so that is one less thing I have to worry about… BUT IF I was having a full-on Destination Wedding with Guests, then I’d handle those details in the same fashion as I am doing the Ceremony.

Hope this helps,


Post # 5
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Do you have someone back home that you trust to go to venues and vendors for you and that you can ask them to do such a big task?  Do you have enough in your budget to get a wedding planner who could help you out from afar?

I would schedule as many appts as possible on the few times I am able to make it back home. 

How are you getting to your wedding?  Are you going to fly there or drive?

You can probably slowly take things with you every time you go back home and/or ship things.  This goes for your dress, too. 

You’re not the only one doing things from afar, I know there are other bees on here who have done it.  Don’t fret!

Post # 6
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

well the good news is that virtually every venue and vendor have websites! Some of the following steps apply to every bride, some are more specifically for Destination Wedding (or semi DW!)

1) First figure out what your budget is – and who is paying for what

2) For actual ceremony – Do you want a secular or religious ceremony. Religious, you’d have to contact parish church, secular you need to think about what kind of options you’d like. indoor/outdoor etc

for reception and kind of reception – full meal, cocktail and hors d’oeurves or whatever. live music, dj or ipod. which palces are in your budget? (there are great websites about how much to allocate for budget)

I would start off looking at as many venues as you can online, sending them  emails asking about their packages and what they include. then make a top 3 if possible and do a site visit day on one of your trips home. Also, do you have family or close friends who might do some site visits on your behalf?

you can print out wedding check lists generally and site visit checklists specifically (eg is there parking, how many bathrooms, open or cash bar, wheelchair access?)

Itll be more tricky to DIY stuff than your average wedding as you will have to schlep the stuff over there. for everything else – reviews are the way to go. also, are the vendors friendly and helpful, do they respond promptly etc.

Some venues will handle literally everything – food, drink, flowers, cake etc and these can be great. others give you the space and you need to find outside vendors. the second is probably easier but depends on finance

the dress can be flown over with you (hung up or overhead compartment) and then pressed when you arrive. you can either choose it in home state with family and friends, or where you live now so its easier to get alterationes

Post # 8
6123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@awolfpaw:  Welcome!  I think you’ll find many brides on here who are planning  wedding back in their hometown, but remotely!


I have planned a Destination Wedding in probably 4 different locations by now – all remotely.  Our ideas have changed so much, but I’ve already done the research for four totally different places (two of which were paid for, one was refunded), including one idea that is in a different country (the idea we stuck with)!


I think the method that worked the best for me when starting all the research for venues, ideas in a place I had never been to was looking at blogs of area wedding photographers!  I’d find a blog for a good photographer of that area, browse their wedding archives and look for venues/places that looked my style.  I’d also look on StyleMePretty.com to see if any were done in my area, as well as GreenWeddingShoes.com and RuffledBlog.com.

Then a simple “wedding venue” search while in Google Maps also helped me find more places that weren’t already photographed.

I could not do a cake tasting or menu tasting.  They were all far away.  I’d just have to go with the reviews and photos I saw online.  I saved lots of photos online to show the vendor what I liked (cake, flowers, etc).



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