Post # 1
Question for you ladies (& gents)!
Is it rude not to invite all the people on FMIL’s hypothetical guest list? She has already invited at least 20 guests (we’re having a small wedding btw approx. 75-100 guests) and is asking if she can invite more. FI and I are also paying for the entire wedding ourselves (with the exception of my dress — relative purchased for me) and are trying to be conservative as the catering and venue alone is $200 per person!
anyone have any insight?
thanks in advance!
Post # 3
@Jas00: I’d say no to any and all of her guests, unless I actually know them AND want them there AND would have invited them on my own anyways. Especially if I am paying for it. This is not her party, this is your WEDDING. Time for YOU to spend time with YOUR closest friends and family… not people you don’t know. And especially if its that small, I’d only invite the people YOU want to invite… you don’t have to have to not invite 20 friends you REALLY want there just becasue your mother wants to invite people.
Ha, sorry, I rant. I just am a firm believer that if I dont invite you, you’re not coming.
Post # 4
@Jas00: I mean, if you must invite a few, do so. But you absolutely do NOT have to invite everyone she lists.
Post # 5
@LeonardLady: thank you for your Advice, it is much appreciated! I’m started to get stressed out with all her requests! I had to finally tell her tonight that we are “being conservative” with the guest count due to expense!
@LeonardLady: I think a few is reasonable, but not ALL!