Post # 1
Hello fellow Bee’s,
After sitting down and writing my guest list ourt I realize we have close to 100 people when it started at 80(THANKS MOM). The venue is pretty small and can seat 80 people with the tables or 100 people for a cocktail stand up reception. The Ceremony and Cocktail reception are both in the same venue. So that saves some time but my mom’s complaining about people not having tables to sit their food on (which by the way is simple and light Hor’dvores with wine, water, tea etc. Nothing to messy except for Ravoli(my Fiance favorite and the only thing he wanted at the wedding). I’m so lost as to what to do. I personally wouldn’t mind having a few tables spread throughout with mainly chairs all over but it’s going to be TIGHT.. Please help with any suggestions..
Post # 3
Are the ceremony and reception in different rooms at the venue?
I wouldn’t start stressing out until your rsvp’s are in so you know how many guests there will be.
You could always compromise if necessary. Have a few tables for those who need to sit and place cocktail tables around the room to offer guests a place to put down their drinks. They don’t take up nearly as much room as a banquet table.
Caterers can also offer plates that come with a notch to hold your stemmed glass, to make it easier for your guests.
Post # 4
We had about 25 people that couldn’t make it! I agree – wait for the RSVPs before you start stressing!
Post # 5
First of all, are you sure that everyone will come? Generally, the rule is to expect 10-20% of guests not to be able to attend, which would give you some breathing room.
However, if you don’t want to run the risk of being too crowded, then I think it’s totally reasonable to go back to your mom and tell her that she can’t have both. If she is the reason why your guest list is so big, and she is complaining about not having tables, then it’s her issue. Unless you feel strongly either way, let her make the decision about what she is going to compromise on for YOUR wedding.
Post # 6
Out of curiosity, who did your mom invite? She added 20 people, which is quite a lot.
My Fiance and I are doing family only for the ceremony and dinner (our aunts, uncles, 1st cousins) and our best friends are in our wedding party. The guest list is still at 150 😛 But maybe you could trim it that way? Or if your mom invited people that she knows but you really don’t, gently tell her that it’s your day and you’d rather keep it to your close friends and family.
If all else fails, I’ve been told to assume that only 75% will RSVP yes, so you’d come under capacity that way, most likely.
Post # 7
Thank you all for you replies!
The ceremony and reception at in the same room, so there is not really a transition stage. I love those plates I will have to look in to them. I called the lady at then venue and she said that 100 people really isn’t bad in that space and she’s seen more. So I think I’m okay. My guestlist is mostly of people that are really close to us, if we hadn’t seen them since we’ve been together (3 years) they were out. I’m supposed to get the RSVP’s back by Sept 18th. Do either of you know how long I should wait before I call people about their RSVP’s I don’t want to hound them but I want to make sure I have a good head count. My mom is adding family members who I really havent seen in forever and they want to use this opportunity to see everyone in the family, which is fine but not at a “small wedding”
Post # 8
My Mother is doing the same thing. She wants to invite her friends, because she went to their daughters weddings. But I don’t know these ladies or their daughters… Her list was around 20 also, and she fretted terribly about her reputation if she had to trim her list to only a few ladies that I remember from my childhood, and actually none of them I have seen in over 20 years (I am 40).
My ceremony venue is also small, holds about 90. So I am limiting the ceremony to both of our families (adds up to around 60) and a few close friends of mine and his, and their familyies. Our reception will be around 150 so hopefully then we can accomodate everyone that doesn’t fit at the ceremony.
I agree, mixing a few seated tables and a few stand up tables would help ease the flow of traffic while still providing seating for thise that really need it.
PS I love your site, very elegant 🙂