Post # 1
First time posting! I got engaged 12/11/10 and my wedding is 8/20/11
My planning is coming along great. We have our reception hall booked, photographer booked, have my dress ordered, found a cupcake person, have our music (live music, not a dj), etc. We met with my fiance’s church 2 weeks ago and I have concerns about the timing between everything and am wondering if we should look into other churches.
Here are my two concerns:
This church has NO AC and it’s an August wedding!
The ceremony will be 30-40 minutes and we have to be out of the church by 3:30 due to 5:00 service. This means our ceremony has to be at 2:00 or 2:30 at the latest.
So, say we have a 2:00 service lasting 30-40 minutes. I was originally thinking 5:00 start time for the reception (10-15 mins from church). That seems like too much time in between doesn’t it? And once reception starts, how long should there be before dinner? How long after dinner until music starts? Our music will not start until 8:00 (he plays 4 hours and stops at midnight).
Would love to hear other thoughts, experiences, and how much time everyone has in between all their stuff.
Post # 3
I haven’t decided for sure yet on all of the logistics for mine, but it seems as though you have a lot of in between time. Most venues allow a 4 to 5 hour reception time. It appears that you are planning on a 7 hour reception?
Also, the timing of the church depends on if there are activities that your guests can do in the meantime. Are you in a larger city where your guests could find somewhere to be for an hour or so? Honestly, you’ll probably find most of your guests arriving at the reception right after the ceremony anyway. I prefer to have no time in between.
Here’s what I was thinking for mine: My ceremony will be short like yours (30-40 min but giving the guests the 15-20 min to get to the reception it will be an hour or so. I plan to start the ceremony at 5pm or so, cocktail hour will begin at 6, dinner at 6:30-7 depending on how long it takes to take pictures, and the reception will last until 11:00 (reception venue allows 5 hours before they charge us overtime fees). I love the 11pm end time is early enough that the early-to-bed people will feel like they got to enjoy the dinner, cake cutting, etc., but the late-owls can still make it with enough time to go to the bar for an after party if they wish.
I will have a DJ instead though, but he will be there the entire time from 6 to 11. I plan to have softer music during cocktails and dinner (a little frank sinatra maybe 🙂 my dad would love that!), then play more dance-worthy songs after.
Even though I haven’t set mine in stone yet, I hope I was some help. Good luck!
Post # 4
7 hours is too long for a reception I doubt your guests will stay that long….
But a suggestion for music is IPOD it from reception start time until band start time.
Also generally speaking 2 hours break are not that bad. We’d go get drinks somewhere or coffee in the meantime plus travel time to and from that only leaves you about an hr to sit down for drinks/ or coffee.
Post # 5
You’ll be amazed at how things flow on their own. Our ceremony was @ 1, supper @ 6 and then program after supper which ended about 7:30, band was supposed to start at 9. Our program lasted probably 45 mins – 1 hour so we had about 30 mins till band started. So we did our first dance then, then father/daughter and by that time the band was ready to go. For all the dull moments we had a mp3 player with a hundreds of songs to fill in the space. People will visit and drink.