(Closed) [HELP] Please help me (a guy) get the perfect engagement ring.

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
3199 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Elky:  nope! it’s 4 prongs! you can’t tell in the picture because its blingy mcblingface and hard to get a crisp photo of, but it’s just the 4. ^.^

Post # 18
205 posts
Helper bee

@jmt:  My ring size is 4.5 and my ring is over 2 ct. and I love it! It depends on what she likes, although my fiance didn’t ask for my input when he chose the ring, as he wanted it to be surprise.

Post # 19
3199 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@jmt:  also, i +1 everyone on this thread who is saying 2 carats would be too much. my center is just over a carat and is PLENTY big. my friend just got a 1.2 carat center with a large halo and has the same finger size as me (4) and its a little bulky for her little finger, IMO.

Post # 20
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m a size 6.25 with a 1.5ct and I find it too big:

I think a 0.8-1.2 ct stone would do just fine! And Tacori settings don’t come cheap, but make sure not to skimp out on the cut and clarity of the center stone. Those are usually the most important of the 4C’s. 

Post # 21
3723 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Your budget isn’t realistic. A good quality 2 carat diamond costs over $17,000 on James Allen. You could get a lower quality diamond, but it still won’t be under 10k with the setting. Tacori settings run in the thousands, so your total diamond budget will be between 6 and 8k.

Post # 22
4716 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You’ll have to almost double your budget to afford a 2ct. ring, you could probably get more bang for your buck by working with a jewler to make a custom ring that resembles a Tacori.


Post # 23
454 posts
Helper bee

How sweet! If you know where you will buy the setting, maybe buy the diamond first, propose with that, then make an appt for immediately after your proposal and go together to pick the setting. Good luck!

Post # 24
3221 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@mrsztobee:  Tacori uses a high quality palladium white gold alloy that is NOT rhodium plated. Redipping is a non-issue for Tacori, which is why many Tacori partners will recommend white gold.

OP, I fit your GF’s description to a T and have a Tacori with a round diamond. I’m just making a note to come back and reply when I have some more free time!

Post # 25
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

With your entire budget being 10k and wanting a Tacori setting, you will not have enough left over for a center diamond of decent quality of two carats. Depending on the setting price, you will probably be able to get around one carat. If you are getting larger than that for 6k, you need to seriously look at what’s wrong with the diamond so that that’s happening. I don’t think two carats is too big for a size 5 finger, but that’s irrelevant if you can’t afford it anyway.

And quite honestly, since you have already discussed rings a little, I’d ask her to get sized or take her to get sized rather than just guessing. Bringing in another ring is iffy because all your fingers are different sizes, most people don’t wear other rings on their left-hand ring finger, and the width of rings affects what size you need so you want to be sized with a width close to the final width of your ring.


Post # 26
5065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MeiFrancis: Your ring is a beauty.

Post # 27
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@letigre:  Hi, sorry to hijack the thread, but does this mean you have a white gold Tacori?  This fact is helpful, as I’ll be getting a Tacori and I’m undecided as to whether I want platinum or white gold.


@jmt:  I agree with PPs that you can’t get 2 carats (probably not even low quality) on your budget of 10k.  Most Tacori settings already cost $3-5k alone.  Based on your girlfriend’s size, you can probably get a beautiful 1 carat with a Tacori setting.  I’d suggest going on Blue Nile and Pricescope to do some research on the actual diamonds and then maybe readjust your budget.  Good luck!

Post # 28
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I definitely recommend taking a ring of hers to a jeweler to be sized properly, as height is not much to go off of for sizing. For reference, I’m 5’6″ and a ring size 4. Also keep in mind that different fingers can be different sizes. Resizing a ring can sometimes be difficult and from what I know of Tacori designs, they can be quite detailed and thus could possibly be difficult to resize.

As for style, I think that taking a look at the other jewelry your girlfriend wears can be a good indicator. Does she like to get dressed up, wear dangly earrings, or wear big statement necklaces? She may like something more flashy like a three-stone setting or a halo. Or maybe she is more simple and timeless with a preference toward vintage or heirloom jewelry? She may prefer a classic solitaire setting, perhaps with a pave band.

One thing to keep in mind for women with smaller ring sizes is the width of the band – a thicker band can very quickly overwhelm a thin finger (even moreso than a larger diamond in my opinion). For myself personally, I don’t prefer the look of an engagement ring worn between two wedding bands for that reason.

Last thought – does your girlfriend have a Pinterest account? I had my “dream ring” pinned on my future wedding pinboard for more than a year before I actually got engaged. That might be a good indicator of what she likes!

Good luck!

Post # 29
2052 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@jmt:  If your budget is around 10k, I would say that you probably won’t be able to get a 2 carat center stone.  However, if you went down in the other C’s it might be doable.

I agree with the other bees, it depends on a lot of things.  Has she hinted at anything to you?  Does she have any rings she wears all the time/likes a lot?

Post # 30
9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Another Gal who advises you to go down in CARAT Size and up in Quality.

As you’ve no doubt discovred buying a Diamond means juggling the 4 Cs..

CUT (Quality & Shape) – COLOUR – CLARITY

and of course CARAT SIZE

Every Bride will tell you what their preference is for their importance…

I personaly am a Clarity / Carat Size last girl… because you can find decent Diamonds that don’t have a lot of visible imperfections, and with good CUT & COLOUR can sparkle like all get out

I also feel that the other Cs should also be considered:


COPYRIGHT / DESIGNER isn’t a big deal for me… but it is for some women

My own ERing’s stats are as follows:

Just under 2 Carats in Total Carat Weight, and  is a Custom Design from a Family Jewellery Store… Cathedral Setting  (arch style ring) 18 Kt White Gold Channel set with 46 Diamonds (Rounds &  Baguettes) aprox 1.1 CTW… they are all Canadian Certified Diamonds ranging in  size from 0.01 up to 0.05 each and are I in Colour and Clarity.  The  Feature Diamond is a .80 Good Cut Round Brilliant Canadian Certified Diamond  with SI-1 Clarity and F Colour, and set into place with a traditional 4 Prong Setting.  The Ring is also GIA Certifed.

My “Sparkly” Wedding Band came from an International Chain Jewellery Store  (Peoples / Zales) and is 14 Kt White Gold Channel Set with 10 Diamonds (Rounds)  all in the 0.05 range … all Certified Canadian Diamonds.  They are I  Clarity, and G in colour.  And the total carat weight is just over .50  Carats.  This Ring is also GIA Certified.

If you do your homework, you can certainly make your estimated Budget go farther, and still get an amazing Ring / Bridal Set.

Hope this helps,


Post # 31
295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

As many have said, 2 cts probably isn’t realistic with your budget, but a smaller diamond should look very nice on her.  Unless your GF feels strongly about having a large diamond, sacrifice size for quality.  Tacori has halo and pave settings, so you can find something with plenty of bling.

I would head over to Pricescope and let the experts there help you find a diamond.  I know at least one of the Pricescope recommended vendors sells Tacori.  If you are really unsure about what setting your GF would like, I think you should buy the diamond and have it set in a simple inexpensive setting and pick out the forever Tacori setting with your GF post-proposal.  Good luck!

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