(Closed) Help please, reception guest

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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busybee200717:  Invite him! 

We’re inviting quite a few people to the evening that we aren’t sure will actually want to come, but there’s no harm in asking 🙂

He can always say no, but if he does come I’m sure he’ll be just fine 🙂 he’ll have your parents to talk to and they can always introduce him to some other relatives he might get along with 🙂

 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

He’d probably enjoy himself, and he can always say no. I won’t say you’re being stupid because actually I think you’re being lovely, even if this gentleman doesn’t want to come by himself I’m sure he’d be extremely touched by the invitation.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

As PPs have said, I’m sure he’d think it was a lovely gesture and he’s by no means obliged to attend. Would it be appropriate to give him a +1 so he could take a friend or another family member?

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I would invite him, if he doesn’t feel comfortable he can decline. I’m sure he would be extremely touched by the invitiation. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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busybee200717:  How about giving him a plus one? He may have a friend or neighbour that he could ask to accompany him if he was worried about going alone. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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busybee200717:  You cannot control the feelings of others. He can choose to attend or decline if he feels he may be uncomfortable. That is not for you to decide or really worry about, he is an adult and can make his own decisions to his well being. You have better, more important things to worry about

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Invite him but mention that you totally understand if he isn’t keen on going since he will be alone. I invited a colleague from work to our evening do who I know has severe social anxiety, and I mentioned that I totally get if she didn’t fancy it but wanted to invite her anyway. She declined but was still so pleased I had asked and given her an invite. 

Or if it is an option, give hm a plus one.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

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busybee200717:  invite him and give him a plus one. It’s up to him then but at least he knows you’re thinking of him.  We invited some older neighbours. They declined saying parties weren’t their thing etc but loved that we asked and they  popped over for a celebratory cup of tea and cake instead. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

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busybee200717:  I vote for inviting him. Knowing he is included and wanted will help counter any feelings of lonliness. If he thinks he won’t be up for it, he will politely decline, but I think it’s his choice to make and that extending the invitation is a very thoughtful and kind gesture.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

its hard to know how someone elses feels but dont decide for them… he may love to be around other at a happy event, I imagine being widowed is quite a lonely a heartbreaking thing so knowing other people want your company and your not forgotten/alone maybe good for him

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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jpbee:  do NOT do this inviting him then cutting the happiness straight back with a horrible reminder that hes all alone is cruel and brutal plus it makes it seem like a curtousy invite where he is not really wanted, might aswell say ‘hey, you can sort of come if you want but really you shouldn’t’ – all it could possibly do is make him feel worse

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