Post # 1
I have an issue with inviting my uncle, his wife AND his mistress. Sorry this is long but I need help.
Basically my uncle (dad’s younger brother) lives overseas with his wife, his mistress, and his mistresse’s and his daughter. What happened was that my aunty (uncle’s wife) couldn’t have children so they employed a surrogate. After having his child this surrogate ended up falling in love with my uncle and absolutely would NOT leave and ended up staying with the family. So my uncle basically has a wife and a live in mistress.
When my dad found out after flying back home he was livid at how he could do this to his wife. However my dad and mum accepted this was the way the family chooses to live and they left it at that. They told me when they came home, as I was going to be visiting a few months later and didn’t want me to get a shock and understand the sensitivity of the issue.
When I went back to visit, it turns out this mistress is vindictive, manipulative, mean and nasty only to my Aunty (Uncle’s wife). She was the one to give my uncle a child where my aunty couldn’t so she sees herself as “better”. To others and myself she is sweet as sugar but I can see how she speaks to my Aunty and Aunty has told me how much the whole situation hurts her. She is so kind and self sacrificing. Also, not to mention the child is growing up to be a class A entitled brat.
Anyways, when it comes to inviting overseas family my dad was listing out his family members for me and we all agreed we absolutely did NOT want the mistress at our wedding. We wanted Aunty to have Uncle all to herself FOR ONCE and she deserved a little holiday, rest and happiness (she also has to look after my grandma who has dementia and lives with them). However Uncle has insisted they all are coming and that he will be booking flights for all of them. He said that we are selfish for not including his MISTRESS.
Would you invite her?
Post # 3
Hell no I wouldn’t invite her!
Post # 6
Your uncle’s name wouldn’t happen to be Abram would it? Ha. I think it is totally okay to just invite your uncle and his wife. And make it clear to him that thw misteas will not be letBBC in.
Post # 7
and im curious. surrogate as in they had sex to have the baby or artificially insemination. Had to be sex for her to “fall in love”, well them to fall in love smh poor aunt
Post # 8
Holy shit! I’m not trying to be judgmental but how awful for your aunt 🙁 I don’t understand how your uncle thinks that’s ok to do to his WIFE!
Sorry, to answer your question–NO!
Post # 9
uh. no I wouldnt.
If it was up to me, I might just invite my aunt. He sounds like a d-bag. Sorry
Post # 10
What I WANT to say is invite the aunt only. The poor woman is good enough to care for your uncle’s father, but not to have as his one and only wife? I wouldn’t want the uncle there at all.
But yes, each person only gets one partner, so you only need to invite uncle and aunt.
Post # 11
Err, no. Don’t invite her.
Post # 12
I’m not sure…I think they had sex *urgh* to have the child…in their country it is ok to have multiple wives and/or mistresses.
Yeah my poor aunt..she feeds, clothes and takes care of the child too while the mistress is away enjoying her husband’s money. I cannot imagine my aunty’s pain.
Thanks for all your replies so far, it has assured me that we are not being rude by not inviting her!
Post # 13
Oh my word… I wouldn’t invite her!
Post # 14
No way! I’d only invite aunty and maybe uncle! Tell him to books the flights, his mistress can stay at the hotel. Poor aunty!
Post # 15
+1. I personally couldn’t invite a mistress, nor anyone who HAS a mistress.
I feel so sorry for your aunt 🙁