Post # 1
My fiance and I are writing our own vows, which we are super excited about! 🙂 Our friend has been ordained to marry us, so we have full control over how the ceremony will go.
We are going to use our own vows to each other, but still want to incorporate traditional repeat after me/I do vows before the rings are exchanged.
Has anyone done this or seen it done? I’m looking to help our friend set up the structure of the ceremony and some verbiage to use. I have tried to do searches online but since it’s such a specific search, I’ve been having a hard time finding anything.
Any help or input you can give would be great. Thank you!
Post # 2
I officiated a wedding and did literally this exact same thing! I read the “scripted” vows first to the groom, he said “I do” and then read his own vows, and then the same for the bride. I thought it was going to be clumsy but once we had it all set to go I thought it went really well–initially we had thought I might say, “And now groom will read vows he has written for bride,” but I’m glad we didn’t do that and it was pretty clear to everyone what was going on without me narrating it. I’d be glad to answer any other questions!
Post # 3
This is a great idea! I guess in my head I was thinking they would have to be done separately. When did you have them do the ring exchange?
Post # 4
Is it okay tfor the officiant to say everything and the bride and groom only get to say “I do” not the repeat after me stuff? My Fiance will definitley not do that. He just won’t, not in front of people. And the rings, can we just put them on after the I do without a saying about it? LOL
Post # 5
They exchanged rings right after the vows, with a short “repeat after me” selection that they liked.
Post # 6
For traditional vows, generally you repeat after the officiant, OR the officiant says do you, (name), vow/promise to …..? and you respond I do, once or to multiple prompts.
I suppose if you want to do both, you can limit I do to: do you, (name), take (name) to be your lawfully wedded husband/wife? And repeat all the traditional vows like such as for richer/for poorer.
Doing personal, repeating, and I do seems like a bit much to me, but if that’s what you want, it’s your ceremony.
So for mixing personal and traditional, I think it would be nice to take turns sharing what you’d like to share, without promises/vows, and then doing traditional vows, inserting any personal vows in a similar format.
Post # 7
You can definitely just say “I do” once, and that’s it. And usually the exchanging of rings is a distinct part of the ceremony, but you can totally skip it, or have the officiant say something about it but skip the “with this ring I thee wed” 🙂