(Closed) Help Please: Writing Our Own Vows With Still Saying I Do

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I officiated a wedding and did literally this exact same thing! I read the “scripted” vows first to the groom, he said “I do” and then read his own vows, and then the same for the bride. I thought it was going to be clumsy but once we had it all set to go I thought it went really well–initially we had thought I might say, “And now groom will read vows he has written for bride,” but I’m glad we didn’t do that and it was pretty clear to everyone what was going on without me narrating it. I’d be glad to answer any other questions!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Is it okay tfor the officiant to say everything and the bride and groom only get to say “I do” not the repeat after me stuff? My Fiance will definitley not do that. He just won’t, not in front of people. And the rings, can we just put them on after the I do without a saying about it? LOL

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 7 months ago by  happy_face. Reason: corrected spelling mistakes
Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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futuremrsstarring:  They exchanged rings right after the vows, with a short “repeat after me” selection that they liked.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

For traditional vows, generally you repeat after the officiant, OR the officiant says do you, (name), vow/promise to …..? and you respond I do, once or to multiple prompts.

I suppose if you want to do both, you can limit I do to: do you, (name), take (name) to be your lawfully wedded husband/wife? And repeat all the traditional vows like such as for richer/for poorer.

Doing personal, repeating, and I do seems like a bit much to me, but if that’s what you want, it’s your ceremony.

So for mixing personal and traditional, I think it would be nice to take turns sharing what you’d like to share, without promises/vows, and then doing traditional vows, inserting any personal vows in a similar format.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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happy_face:  You can definitely just say “I do” once, and that’s it. And usually the exchanging of rings is a distinct part of the ceremony, but you can totally skip it, or have the officiant say something about it but skip the “with this ring I thee wed” ๐Ÿ™‚

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