@LauraVolkmer: I’m so sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. I hate when as girls, our insecurities get the best of us by rearing their ugly head at what’s suppose to be life’s happy moments.
First off, you don’t state how old you are – but I would stop comparing yourself to high school. Most girls were a lot skinner there, but we were finished maturing and didn’t have the adult bodies we do today. We focused a lot on “me” time not school, college, careers, others, cleaning, upkeeping a house/apartment, family, a fiancee 🙂
You should talk to someone – family, friend, counselor or your fiancee – about your feelings. Next time he comments on your looks (good or bad) and you are alone, or next time you bring up “The past” talking about when you met. My fiancee was extremely large (300+ )when we started dating, much larger than when we were first friends, and him and I have worked together at trying to be healthier and more conscious of what we eat. It was never a race or a “you need to lose weight” but a “We need to be healthy to have more time to enjoy with one another.”
Or a “We’re getting married, and that’s because I want you by my side forever… let’s make forever happen on a healthy note.” We’ve both lost a little weight since then, him more than I. I’ve done more toning up.
I’ve found it a good mindset to approach things with.
Also – I absolutely love this image here, showing women all the same weight at different heights.
I’m also 5″3″ and weighed 190 when I went dress shopping. Still a plus sized girl here. I’m down a little (185-180 hover) but not much.
I found a consultant and a dress shop who didn’t care about size, but wanted to help me find a dress that made me feelt beautiful that I was comfortable in. I left one shop after an off-putting commenta bout my weight.
Demand that respect. You as a customer and woman with respect for herself doesn’t need to be insulted. If they make off-putting remarks, leave, it’s not worth dealing with them in the future. You will find someone who wants you to look as great as you will (hopefully come to) feel.