(Closed) Help! Potential Lock Jaw!

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

He has a wife?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Lord, woman, you’re a lot more patient and giving than I would be!!  My man likes ’em too, but I also like my jaw and my sleep. πŸ™‚

I would give when you want to.  If he wants it at 5:30AM, and you’re not up for it… he doesn’t have to have one.  Not getting a BJ won’t kill him.  I would say something like, “sweetie, I am tired right now, but I’ll give you one _______” and let him know a better time for you.

Sex should be mutual, so I think if a schedule works for you, then why wait until you’re married?  Start now to only give when it’s mutually beneficial so that when you do get married, it’s not a huge drastic change, like you said you were worried about.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@Eva Peron: I think she’s referrring to herself when they get married.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Eva Peron:  I think she means her after they are married. Right?

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

secondchances:

piglet_625: 

ohh okay , I get it now πŸ™‚ i was gonna say…….

Well first off, I hope he satisfies you and is equally as eager as you are to please! I agree with the others in that you should do it as often as you feel up for it. If you can’t do it at 5 in the morning, I don’t think it makes you any less of a gf or future wife. Do what feels right for you!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@jinglebell: I hope he is just as worried about pleasing you as you are about pleasing him. If not then you guys will have major issues down the road. It isn’t all about his needs you know. If you need sleep then get some. He needs to be looking out for your best too.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@jinglebell: I agree with the others that you should do what works for you and that I hope he is as eager to give as to receive :). 

Does he ever take care of business himself? It’s fine if he has a high sex drive, but expecting you to wake up at 5:30 to “wake him up” is totally unreasonable. I’d give him a box of tissues and tell him to have fun :).

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

LOL Yes, you can say no and definitely not have to feel guilty about it! Darling Husband will hint about it sometimes and if I’m not in the mood I’ll just laugh it off and say no, and it’s not a big deal at all.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Definitely you can say no at times if you don’t feel like it, or it’s 5AM!  I’m glad he reciprocates, though!! πŸ™‚

I usually try to avoid outright saying, “NO!!  I won’t do it!!” unless I’m just moody or something.  I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but I do sometimes say, “well, I would like to, but now’s not the best time for me… but when you get home, you may or may not have a surprise waiting… hint hint.” πŸ˜‰

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@jinglebell: I think you should really encourage him to explore himself. Everyone should learn his or her own body, and it’s not fair to you that you be responsible for all of his sexual health/happiness, if it is impinging on basic things (like your sleep!). Maybe give him a book on masturbation or something? Is there any reason he’s given for not doing it? Is he a part of a strict religion or something?

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@jinglebell: Don’t start something you can’t finish. Every man in the world would like 2 BJ’s a day. Wanting and getting are two different things!

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