Post # 1
I ordered a beautiful gown a few months ago, and now te priest is telling me I have to somehow cover my shoulders a bit during the ceremony 🙁 Trouble is, the gown I ordered was the Sottero & Midgley – “Starla”, which is one-shouldered! What kind of bolero/jacket/shrug/wrap thingy would go with a one-shouldered dress?…None 🙁 When my dress comes in in february I could try playing with it, and seeing if I could tuck the shoulder into my dress and then wear a short sleeved see-through lace jacket thingy maybe:( I’m thinking about fighting the man, and having a cigarette accidently put a hole in my jacket before the ceremony, unless I can somehow find something that works.
Any suggestions on what jacket/bolero/shrug/wrap I could wear, and if you think the one sleeve is able to be tucked in, or if I wouldn’t need to do that for some reason to make a jacket look good?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t tuck the one shoulder strap in. It will look bulky and get wrinkled.
I’m not suggesting this particular bolero but if you get one that has this kind of coverage, people won’t know it is a one shouldered dress until you remove the bolero.
This pic is from an old post on weddingBee discussing the same situation. A tulle wrap would look great. You could duplicate the design of the dress by adding detailing over the strap.
Post # 4
@julies1949: Love the tulle wrap idea. Looks very elegant and like it wouldn’t take away from the dress itself.
Post # 5
Definitely this idea would work.
Post # 6
I agree, dont tuck in the strap. You picked the dress because you obviously like the strap. I say go with a loose tulle or even some type pf lace cover up would look nice
Post # 7
I am getting married in a church where we are technically supposed to have our shoulders covered as well. However, I don’t want to wear a jacket of any kind (I love my dress too much to cover it up!), so I asked our priest if I could just wear a long veil with the sides falling in from of my shoulders, instead of behind, and he said this was fine. I know some priests might not be as lenient as ours, but it is worth a shot to ask him. If he says yes, then your shoulders are technically covered, but it won’t take away from your dress at all!
Post # 8
I don’t know if this picture is a wrap or the model holding the dress, but you could always purchase extra fabric from Sottero & Midgley to make a wrap. I bought extra fabric for my Maggie — it’s not too terribly expensive 🙂
Post # 9
@julies1949, yes I love that tull wrap idea! I bet I could sew on some rhinestones or whatever, strategically. I think I could only pull off the bolero tho, if I did tuck in the strap, cuz even that picture you posted, I can picture where the strap would be visible, over my left breast, the strap extends to the center of the sweetheart neckline I think.
And ok everybody, I won’t tuck in the strap:) I bet the crystals are placed so that it couldn’t fold over in the correct place without looking awkward, anyways:) Can’t wait till it comes in tho to try it on again!
@PeachBee, I love your idea too! I was already planning on getting a long cathedral length veil, and I bet if I got one with a lace scalloped edging, that it would be heavy enough to stay over my shoulders instead of falling back behind me completely. I will definitely run this one past my priest as it would require the least amount of compromise on my end;)
Post # 10
Don’t forget that you can use a bit of double sided tape to keep the edges of the bolero or jacket where you want them to be.
Post # 11
Did you tell him it was 2011 and not 1980? Why is he marrying you? I would get married elsewhere.
Post # 12
A Jacket isnt a bad idea if thats what the priest wants– Dont forget that its just for that part of the ceremony adn afterwards during the reception you can wear your dress how you like. There are many prretty lace jackets OR eve in davids bridal they have sleeves where you can attach to your dress… like this.
The last two are Sleeves you just add to your dress. First is just a Lace jacket. you can find these at Davids bridal under ” Accesories- Coverage options”
Post # 13
@danicalifornia: He’s probably marrying her b/c she wants to get married in a church…. If you want to get married somewhere, you need to follow their rules… I think the OP was asking for suggestions on what to wear — not asking where YOU would get married!
Post # 14
@danicalifornia: Most Catholic churches have this requirement. In fact many churches will require that the bridal party follow the same guidelines. The strictest churches will require that anyone attending the wedding ceremony do the same. But it’s at the church’s discretion. And it’s only for the ceremony…afterwards and even for pictures, you can do what you want.
Post # 15
@red_rose: i agree!
also, people who want to get married in a church know what it takes to get married in one. so i hate it when people get mad about it.
Post # 16
@MrsDiddles: Where did you get those pics from ?….sorry slight thread hijack.