(Closed) Help!! Proposal/engagement party protocol

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

An engagement party happens AFTER you are engaged (which is when she would start wearing the ring). So you are correct in thinking you give her the ring when you get engaged, and that the party is just a party that comes after. To be honest it seems kind of odd to plan an engagement party when you’re not engaged yet! It’s a party you have to celebrate after the proposal/engagement happens.

May I ask where you’re posting from? I know different countries have different norms and superstitions, so just curious if you’re outside the US.

Post # 5
335 posts
Helper bee

yeah, usually the couple gets engaged through the proposal (where the ring is usually given) and then will have a party later on just to celebrate with family and friends. the engagement is “official” after the proposal, or when the couple decides that it is. how ever you want to mix that with other traditions is up to you and your lady, though. good luck! 🙂

Post # 6
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

How did you plan an engagement party if you are not engaged? Normally in the US this is how it goes… first you ask her to marry you (with our without the ring) then you give her the ring or you shop together and get it for her. THEN you plan the engagement party. Unless you are following a cultural tradition, in which you need to find out from your family.


Good luck and congrats!

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